BEND REALITY WITH HYPNOSIS AND THE MAGIC OF YOU.2

The unconscious mind is an amazing resource that recorded every experience and learning you have ever had. All of these experiences normally move into long-term memory and become resources to use in problem-solving. How does that work? Each time you need to access confidence, think of a previous accomplishment when you felt enormous power and confidence. As you review the memory and move into the same state you were in during the goal achievement, you take that same mental state into the next challenge. It is the mental state where patterns of excellence are connected. We all have had experiences of accomplishment some time in life, and these can be utilized for future endeavors. This is You.2 which you may never have known about.

In order to access these memories it is helpful to move into a trance state which is a state of focused attention that uses memory and imagination. The power of the unconscious mind to develop amazing solutions to problems comes from shifting your state to deep calm. Once you ask yourself a question about how to solve some dilemma and shift into deep calm, you open the portal to your unconscious wisdom. The unconscious goes on an internal search to find not just one solution but many. This amazing power is within you and is your personal Harry Potter magic of the mind.

Most people have no idea what they can do until they really learn how the mind and brain work. Your innate abilities for profound awareness, limitless problem-solving, financial increase, and creative idea development reside within. There are many strategies to access this power. One is to just count yourself down slowly from 10-0 and relax deeply as each number become smaller. After you have asked your deeper mind a question, then wait expectantly for an answer to emerge then or later.

Another strategy is to drum on a table for two minutes until you enter a state of flow or the zone. Then take a deep breath and ask the unconscious for a solution to a particular challenge.

Those of you who have taken any of our hypnosis or brain change courses have experienced this ability that you have. When you understand this capacity, you learn that negative thoughts are unnecessary. If you haven’t been to one of our trainings, notice some new opportunities below.

Upcoming Events:

Monday May 8 we will be featured on The Inspiration Show. Use this link:

May 11-12 2017 we will be in Overland, Kansas for our 2-day Hypnosis Certification for clinicians. See Pesi.com

June 21-22 2017 we will be in Cleveland, Ohio for our 2-day Hypnosis Certification for clinicians. See Pesi.com 

Pick up a copy of our new book The Worry-Free Mind which is available in Kindle, paperback, and audio on Amazon.

SPECIAL SALE: A THINNER STATE OF MIND CD FOR $16.95 which is normally $21.95 and one our most popular cds. Call Carol to leave your credit card information, expiration, and pin number and mailing address at 713 703-8782.

WATCH FOR OUR COMING ANNOUNCEMENT: We will be working with a new Star Trek-like cutting edge device that can measure real time what kind of focused attention places us in optimal states. We will be using this device in a new course in 2018.

APRIL 2017 NEWSLETTER

WHAT TO DO WHEN SURPRISING EVENTS KNOCK YOU OFF THE PATH

We all have experiences that suddenly surprise us and create life shocks. These can be illness,

destructive storms, being passed over for promotion, or being rejected socially. The same part

of the brain that registers physical pain is stimulated when any of these emotional stresses

occur. So how do you cope and get back on your life path with motivation and creative energy?

All of these negative surprises can trigger our worst Stephen King Horror Movies of the Mind.

What are yours? Then we must go about calming the mind and changing the mental state. As

we teach in our seminars and writings, the problem isn’t really what you think the problem is.

It is the mental state you must shift. To shut off the negative chatter, a meditation based in

Yogic Philosophy and researched in neuroscience suggests you do the following.

1. Close your eyes

2. Focus attention on your forehead; then the temporal area, then sides of the head.

3. Next focus on the back of the head, and imagine moving attention up the brain stem to

the middle brain.

4. Say the word, Ah as you exhale for 3 minutes.

5. Notice how you begin to feel calmer.

The practice of calming the mind serves to be your Stress Thought Inhibitor. You may want to

do this exercise several times a day.

UPCOMING EVENTS

Carol and Bill will be teaching the 2-Day Hypnosis Course in Dallas, April 20-21 for Pesi

Please join us for the latest cutting edge information on using the tools of hypnosis to facilitate

positive change. Sign up soon as we already have more than 30 participants.  Pesi.com

IN THE WORKS

We are working on a new workshop called The Inner Game of Entrepreneurship that is based

in practical neuroscience where we demonstrate how to make better decision, be more

productive, have better relationships, and make more money. The Worry-Free Mind System you

will learn is a simple strategic process to tune attention to resourceful states. This powerful

approach allows you to overcome worry, doubt, and procrastination as well as activates your

money neurology center.

Have a wonderful April.

 

Love Carol and Bill

ZONING OUT CAN HELP YOU WITH BIG DECISIONS

Are you struggling with a big decision and just don’t know what to do? Trying hard to figure out what decision will take you to the best future can be difficult. Perhaps you find yourself imagining what bad things can happen if you do one thing and whether you’ll be successful if you do another. But solutions rarely emerge from an anxious mind. Fear-driven determinations hardly ever turn out well.

Milton Erickson, the famous psychiatrist who was picked by Life Magazine as one of the most influential people in the 20th century, often engaged his students in a mind experiment. He asked them to tell him how many ways they could travel from Phoenix (where he lived) to Tucson. The students told him the regular ways: use a car, bus, plane, train, or walk. Then Erickson would say, “that is very good. But if you relax your mind, your unconscious will give you more ideas.” So, the students would relax and then notice other ideas pop up. Perhaps they could take a hot air balloon, fly around the world backwards, tunnel under the ground, or ride a camel to their destination. Erickson continued to encourage other ideas through accessing the other side of the mind that we call the unconscious. Sure enough, his students demonstrated that they had access to unlimited ideas. Even though their ideas seemed whimsical and impractical, by tapping into another part of the mind, which Erickson called the unconscious, they were priming themselves to think outside the box and find novel solutions. Fast forward to the 21st century when neuroscience research discovered that shutting down conscious thought drives the process of developing creative ideas. It turns out that when you stop evaluating a problem and do something else like take a walk in the park, play a game, listen to music, take a nap, or enjoy a warm shower, and focus attention away from trying come up with a solution, a new idea shows up. This is called the process of incubation and can be induced in a short time through “mind-wandering,” where you let your mind move into a dream-like state for a few minutes (Christoff et al., 2009, Christoff et al., 2011).

When we get into a worry-mind, old solutions that don’t work, become stuck in the mind in a loop of repetitive concerns that can spiral into running your worst Stephen King horror movies of the mind. Attempting to generate new ideas is impossible until you change your mental state to one that is calmer. Then you tend to forget those stuck ideas and make room for creative solutions that you may never have thought of before (Segal, 2004; Dijksterhuis and Nordgren, 2006).

Mind Wandering is not a replacement for learning about a topic and analyzing it. But when all your preparation leads to dead-end solutions, you need to learn to reorganize the hard-earned knowledge. Taking the mind away from your goal can create the break-through you’re looking for.

In a world of fast-paced change, those people who can develop creative ideas and use a process to solve problems become successful entrepreneurs, parents, teachers, and leaders in all professions and life pursuits. Whether you are struggling with a management issue, trying to decide whether to move or not, or where to spend your birthday, you can feel stuck. When you feel blocked, take a break and know that the other side of your mind is working on the problem. When you come back to the issue, watch the answers pop up. It’s a kind of Harry Potter magic the mind uses and a wonderful extraordinary ability you have all of the time.

Upcoming Events:

Carol and Bill are being interviewed by a variety of radio shows around the country. Watch for our announcements via Facebook 

April we will be in Dallas teaching the 2-Day Hypnosis Certification Course for Psychological Issues for Pesi April 2-21, 2017  Pesi.com

May we will be in Overland Park, Kansas teaching the 2-Day Hypnosis Certification Course for Psychological Issues for Pesi May 11-12, 2017.  Pesi.com

Many people have asked us about doing a workshop for the public. We would love to offer that. Let us know your interest by emailing carolkershaw@aol.com

Have a great rest of March.

Love, Carol and Bill

February 2017 Newsletter

BREAKING NEWS

We live in a world of information overload. The words “breaking news” flash across the screen of your smart phone multiple times a day telling your brain that you are in immediate danger and to Pay Attention. Add to this reality the fact that the country is seriously divided politically and that more people are frightened about their immediate and long-term security, physically, economically, and emotionally than for generations. When you hit overload, your brain has the reaction of fight, flight, freeze, or faint. The reaction is useful if you about to be attacked or a tornado rages in your direction, but few of the problems you may have can be solved by your fight, flight, freeze, or faint response.

Even in emergency situations, solutions often require calm and deliberate thought and action. Think of Captain Sullenberger, the pilot who lost both engines after taking off and had little time to come up with a solution to land the airplane safely. Because he was an expert pilot and had been trained to remain calm in the face of an emergency, he was able to override his stress response and determine a complicated and novel solution, which saved the lives of everyone on board by landing the plane in the Hudson River. Even though most of us are not in that level of emergency situation, we have many decisions to make on a daily basis. Reactive thinking seldom leads to effective solutions. Based on the latest neuroscience and cognitive research, The Worry-Free Mind is a guide to help people not only avoid the suffering which occurs in a constant state of overload, but teaches people how to remain in the “zone” mentally and make better responses to multiple life challenges.

The book begins with real life stories about how we have taught people to interrupt worry patterns, which arise from acute and chronic stress. We then teach the reader how to inoculate against stress reactions. An example of one of the exercises that really work, is to give yourself a number when you think about what is stressful on a scale of 1-10, 10 being high in stress. Under stress, the brain’s blood flow to the hemispheres is unequal, and this makes you have more worry thoughts. By tossing a ball back and forth, 6-8 times across the midline, the number comes down. When you continue tossing the ball until you move yourself down to a 1, blood flow is equalized, and you feel better. Think about the stressful topic again. If your number goes up, repeat the exercise until it stays at a 1. The book ends by teaching readers how to live in states of thriving more frequently by practicing states of “flow.” When you learn how to make your brain work better for you, you can dissolve worry and live a life full of possibility.

Upcoming Events:
The Worry-Free Mind just Came out in both paperback and ebook.  Order on Amazon.

Watch for our interview announcements on Facebook-Milton Erickson Institute of Houston February 16-17

2-Day Hypnosis Certification Course Pesi.com

February 24-27 Carol will be teaching Brief Hypnotherapy for Trauma, Depression, and Anxiety in Guadalajara and Monterey Mexico Contact: ruchata@hotmail.com

Carol and Bill are available for workshops. Call 713 703-8782 or email carolkershaw@aol.com

Have a wonderful January.

Love, Carol and Bill

January 2017 Newsletter

You can operate at a higher level than you ever believed possible. But the newest research from Harvard suggests that only 8% of people achieve their goals in a year. The reason is that your brain doesn’t respond well to the command: “stop doing x—like stop eating donuts or stop procrastinating or stop feeling depressed. Rather, you are more successful if you break goals down into mini accomplishments on your way to a larger goal. The key is to focus on developing a better version of yourself by setting an intention and a specific plan of action like going to the gym at a certain time without debate.

The second strategy is to move into flow states more frequently. Flow is the experience of unifying with an activity as in tennis or when you are doing something creative and you lose track of time. Flow moves you out of worry and into your life where accomplishing something is a secondary benefit to a wonderful mental state that builds resilience.

At any age you can be free of depression, resistant to stress, more vibrant, achieve success, and feel alive. The secret key is “Neurogenesis”. This is the brain’s ability to form new cells. But the rate at which you do this is tied to the quality of your life. You can increase your rate of neurogenesis at all ages 3-5 times. Neurotoxic aging is a result of poor nutrition and lifestyle, both inner and outer. So if you focus on a small goal surrounding what you eat or how you exercise, you will be more successful, your mood will be cheerier, and your brain will love you for it.
Upcoming Events:
Carol and Bill will be in Tucson, Scottsdale, and Phoenix January 18,19, and 20 teaching Neuroscience for Clinicians: Brain Change for Stress, Anxiety, Trauma, Moods, and Substance Abuse for Pesi. See Pesi.com

They will be teaching a 2-day Hypnosis Intensive Certification course: Applying Hypnosis to Psychological Treatments February 16-17 in Houston at the Double Tree Suites Hilton Galleria for Pesi. See Pesi.com

Carol travels to Guadalajara and Monterrey Mexico Feb 23-26 to teach Brief Hypnotherapy to Overcome Trauma, Anxiety, and Depression. Contact: ruchata@hotmail.com

The Worry-Free Mind comes out January 23. Please pre-order from Amazon.  Preorder on Amazon

December Newsletter

UPGRADE YOUR STRATEGIES TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR 2017 GOALS

As the year draws to an end, all of us begin to look toward what we want to accomplish in the next year. What if you could reach your next year goals in less than half the time? Can you actually bend reality to create 10x your results? Those peak performers in life use successful strategies to make this happen.

One of the most powerful strategies is to be future-compelled rather than past-driven. This means that you locate the motivation and fascination inside yourself that has always been there about something for which you have passion. This is an intense curiosity that stays with you throughout your life. For us, we are passionate about helping people utilize their own neurology and biology to make the lasting changes they desire. The more that neuroscience research emerges toward this end, the more we can follow our hearts and accomplish this goal with our consulting, writing, and teaching.

To that end, you may want to rid yourself of 10 things that don’t move you toward your future and drain energy and only do those things that will build energy. If you ask yourself why you want to discard something, the process allows you to create yourself (future-compelled) rather than discover who you are (past-driven). But remember, every person struggles to accomplish the creating. Then you can find the habits and patterns to use every day to move toward the future you want.

Power Thought: Take vitamin D every day for serotonin regulation and put in your mind images and thoughts that de-stress or what comes out of your mouth will be stressors for your friends and family.

Upcoming Events:

Bill and Carol will be teaching Neuroscience for Clinicians January 18, 2017 in Tucson where we will focus on practical uses to create strategic change. January 19 –Scottsdale and January 20 –Phoenix. See Pesi.com

The Worry-Free Mind comes out January 23. Please pre-order from Amazon. Preorder  on Amazon.

Carol and Bill are available to schedule workshops. Just call Carol at 713-703-8782 and Bill at 832-545-4833.

November Newsletter

ARE YOU FREQUENTLY DISAPPOINTED?

Jack suffered greatly around feeling disappointed in his life. He searched for the latest therapist, teacher, seminar, or book that would fill in the life gaps that he could access to comfort himself and deal with the deeper disappointment of not achieving his goals. But, he complained that he wasn’t getting what he deserved with regard to opportunities, money, and kudos. What he didn’t understand was that a goal worthy of your time and effort are often difficult, complex, and time consuming.

For most of us the issue isn’t whether we can accomplish something, but do we want to spend the time and effort to do what is necessary. The answer cannot be fully known until you begin to try. There is no shame in starting something and then deciding that you don’t want it that badly. There is no shame in asking for help. Few people get to where they want to go without assistance from coaching, information, or training. The help you need won’t come in easy formulas or platitudes but finding a mentor who will help you look into yourself, develop insight into who you are and what you want, and do the slow and hard work of developing the skills needed to accomplish that goal. When you identify what is really satisfying, then you can create a workable plan of action to get there. Your brain loves action plans and action steps that you formulate and learning the skills needed to reach the goals that are really right for you.

Power Thought: Ask yourself in a situation where you feel disappointed, “what do I need to focus on or do —-or remember or believe”===and your unconscious mind knows the answer. This takes 100% responsibility for your life and you will feel empowered.

Upcoming Activities:

Carol and Bill will be in Hartford, Connecticut December 1-2 , 2016 to teach the 2-Day Hypnosis Intensive Certificate Workshop sponsored by Pesi. See Pesi.com

Carol and Bill just finished editing The Worry-Free Mind and look forward to its publication the middle of January.Preorder  on Amazon.

Have a wonderful November.

Love,

Carol and Bill

OCTOBER 2016 NEWSLETTER

YOUR INNER GUIDANCE SYSTEM

How do you manage the uncertainty of the future? Most people use strategies of either being too rigid to feel like they control outcomes or strategies to calm chaos as in substance abuse or shopping to handle anxiety and worry. Neither really does the trick. Maintaining rigid rules leads to an inflexible life and more discomfort. Calming your chaos with too much alcohol makes you more anxious. The brain loses its ability to create Alpha, the natural relaxation brain frequency. And no amount of shopping can lead to steady calm.

In order to connect with your inner compass, you must change the internal state of chaos or rigidity and stop running your story. How do you do that? Realize that you are telling yourself stories all of the time about you and others. They may not be true but are projections of your own mind. Secondly, you can feel secure in the midst of uncertainty. Listen to the song, “Okay” by The Piano Guys. Then engage in some form of mental training to calm the mind. Count your exhalations slowly until you reach seven and then begin again. Your mind will chatter. Then you will notice the silence between thoughts.

Upcoming Activities:
Carol and Bill will be in Lancaster Oct 6-7 speaking on Brain Change Therapy for Trauma, Anxiety, and Depression sponsored by JK Seminars.
October 27-28 Pesi hosts Bill and Carol for a 2-Day: Hypnosis 2Day Intensive Certificate Workshop: Applying Clinical Hypnosis with Psychological Treatments in Parsippany, N.J. See Pesi.com

We are in the editing stage of our new book: The Worry-Free Mind it is available for preorder  on Amazon.

Have a wonderful October.

Love,

Carol and Bill

SHIFT YOUR REALITY WITH NEURO-FLOW

What shapes your reality? Your conscious and unconscious beliefs. Based on your internal states of mind, you can shift even unconscious beliefs. Those show up as the same obstacles that keep you from achieving a goal. But it is important to understand what reality you wish to create. Perhaps you never questioned what you think or believe.

Once you begin to actively wonder about what could be better, you start to upgrade the mind. The next step is to train your attention through what we might call “neuro-upgrading.” You can make your brain work better. Our life experience is the complex interaction of psychology and physiology. To upgrade your personal evolutionary system and balance your neurology, you must engage some mental practice. Try this neuro-flow exercise to optimize focus and access an inspired and hyper-creative state: Do the following:

  1. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and exhale, and focus on the area called the “third” eye for one minute. 
  2. Open your eyes and focus on one spot for one minute. 
  3. Now with eyes open, defocus to see a bigger picture like the ocean, a picture of a mountain range, or just your room.

You have just harnessed your own neuroplasticity and health through creating a fast state of flow.
Upcoming Activities:
Carol and Bill will be in Connecticut and Rhode Island Sept 14, 15, and 16 to teach Neuroscience for Clinicians. See Pesi.com

You may pre-order our new book The Worry-Free Mind at Amazon,The Worry-Free Mind is on Amazon.

Be sure and watch for the next newsletter on how to evolve your consciousness to a new and more successful level.

Love,

Carol and Bill

August Newsletter

SELECT YOUR SUPER HERO

With all of the Super Hero movies making their way into the theaters, you have the opportunity to consider which is your favorite. Think about the particular qualities of that hero. Superman and Supergirl are from another planet, and we could think of them as immigrants who had to figure out how to live in a new world. What qualities do they have that you want? Mental flexibility, learning how to both fit in and be leaders? Batman doesn’t really have super powers, but he has amazing tenacity. What he sets his mind to, he accomplishes. Wonder Woman carries advanced technology such as the Lasso of Truth, which forces anyone it captures to tell the truth. She also carries indestructible bracelets that she uses to deflect weapon fire and to create a force field for protection. Who wouldn’t want those abilities? So try this experiment. How about going through your day as one of your favorite superheros and see what you accomplish.

Your story about yourself will completely change when you live in the essence of your super hero. And you learn that what doesn’t exist now can exist in the future. The experience can increase your sense of certainty and belief in yourself to create the life you want.

Upcoming Activities:

Carol and Bill will be teaching: Doing Hypnosis in Woburn, Waltham, and Dedham, Massachusetts. Sign up at at Pesi.com

We are just finishing our book: The Worry Free Mind: Train Your Brain, Calm the Stress Spin Cycle, and Discover a Happier, More Productive You. This book introduces your brain’s superpowers that have been discovered by neuroscience and how to harness them to have the best life possible, The Worry-Free Mind is on Amazon for pre-order.

Love,

Carol and Bill

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Newsletter May: 2016

Can You Really Get Over Worry?

Settling down your internal state helps eliminate an onslaught of bad solutions including worry. Worry is a habitual and often impulsive reaction to life’s surprises. Do you ever have a day without them? When you stay calm in the face of a life shock, alert at your job, and involved in something with little stimulation, you feel wonderful and guess what? You don’t worry. Pamela Peeke, assistant professor of medicine at the University of Maryland, who is a long time meditator and treats food addictions, suggests that if you can delay an impulse by hitting an internal pause button, you are less likely to follow through on the thought. There are specific tools you can use to access your inner resources.

Doing some other things like exercise and meditation develops the pause button. If you need to feel calmer, these two good-habit-forming activities can do the trick. On the other hand, if you want to enhance your energy and drive, both of these activities are secret passageways to living your edge and accessing profound ideas from your deepest mind. Best of all, your happiness increases, worry disappears, and you stay in control of your life.

Remember A. A. Milne’s words: Promise me you’ll always remember: you’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
Upcoming Activities:
In June Carol and Bill will be teaching in the L.A. area Doing Hypnosis and Neuroscience for Clinicians. Register at Pesi.com

Carol and Bill’s new book, The Worry-Free Mind is on Amazon for pre-order.

All our best for the best of May.

Love,

Carol and Bill

NEWSLETTER FOR APRIL 2016

GO WITH THE FLOW FOR HEALING AND LIFE SUCCESS

A successful science writer, Stephen Kottler, developed lyme disease. It was debilitating. He couldn’t get out of bed from terrible weakness and after all available drugs were tried that failed, he didn’t know what to do. Then his friends literally dragged him to the ocean and put him on a surf board. He only spent a few minutes floating but came back feeling high from the experience. As he did the same thing many times, his energy returned, and his body cured the illness. Stephen miraculously found the state of Flow led to his healing.

The leading edge of neuroscience research is showing remarkable strides in examining the state of flow. Flow is a state of complete focus, mental clarity and instinctive action. The characteristics of Flow are: the sensation of being outside normal reality; the feeling of timelessness; the sense that you are part of something larger; the absence of physical pain; and the experience of ecstasy.

Flow activates resilience. When you allow yourself to enter the state of flow, which is a fragile state at best, it balances the nervous system, releases neurochemicals such as anandamide, oxytocin, endorphins, and norepinephrine. Your ability to recover from disappointment and pain is enhanced as well as your mental outlook is enhanced.

Clinical hypnosis can stimulate the flow state as well as meditation. Flow is a transpersonal state that often activates the healing response or what some call the placebo effect. You have remarkable abilities to overcome many issues. So, go with the Flow

 

Upcoming Activities

Carol and Bill will be offering their new course Unleash the Power of Placebo: Mind/Body Healing and Hypnosis with Roxanna Erickson-Klein
April 22-23, 2016
Register Here

In June, Carol and Bill will be in L.A. to teach two courses: Doing Hypnosis and Neuroscience for Clinicians For all of the dates we will be in California, go to our page on the Pesi website and click on the seminars tab.

 

CELEBRATION:

WorryFreeMindCoverCarol and Bill just received a book contract and will publish The Worry-Free Mind in February of 2017. It discusses the latest neuroscience tools for overcoming your worst Stephen King Movies of the mind. Watch for more information to help make this a best-seller.

 

All our best,

Carol and Bill

FEBRUARY/MARCH NEWSLETTER

Go with the Flow

The body’s self-healing mechanism is remarkable. While we are often living in pollution and high levels of stress, there appears a remarkable state of mind that has 150 years of research behind it that shows the body/mind can overcome amazing things. This is the state of Flow or being in the zone.

It turns out that learning how to deliberately trigger your own flow states turns on the placebo or self-healing response. Flow cause inflammation to decrease, worry and rumination to dissolve, and healing often follows.

What keeps flow down are chronic tensions, poor diet, lack of exercise, and stuck states of limiting beliefs about what is possible. Everyone has had those experiences of states of excellence you were so focused and lost in the moment of extreme unity that time stood still. By remembering the state you can re-experience it.

Upcoming Activities:

Join Bill and Carol along with Roxanna Erickson Klein Aprill 22-23, 2016, in Houston for the New course: Unleash the Power of Placebo: Mind/Body Healing and Hypnosis to learn the latest skills in triggering the placebo response. The course will run 9:00 am to 4:30. 12 ceu’s for psychologists, LPC’s, and LMFT’s are available nationwide. Click here to register today. Call for further information: 713-703-8782.

In June Carol and Bill will be teaching in the L.A. area Doing Hypnosis and Neuroscience for Clinicians. Register at Pesi.com

All our best to a great March.

Carol and Bill

JANUARY 2016 NEWSLETTER

How To Manage Your Anxiety

When you worry and ruminate you begin to raise levels of arousal or excitement and turn on the sympathetic nervous system. While the best mental state is to return to calm, sometimes that is too difficult. You can’t move from one intense emotion to its opposite without a bridge of some sort like a calming ritual. If you are getting ready to give a talk or sing in public, the better strategy is to tell yourself, “ I am excited,” or tell yourself to “get excited” and use it as an incantation. In her research, Alison Wood Brooks of Harvard Business School, found that when you allow the nervous energy of a situation to flow through you, call it something more positive, and stop trying to control it, you have the ability to manage it better. Excitement and anxiety are close physiologically and are both experienced as high arousal. This strategy is not trying to persuade yourself that things are easy. It is possible to change the feeling from a “threat” mindset to a challenge mindset.

The worry mind is often triggered by novel and uncomfortable situations. It’s always a good strategy to inform yourself about the details of an upcoming event that makes you worry. If you can go to the place where it will be held and become familiar with the surroundings so there are few surprises, you keep your worry at bay.

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Carol and Bill are planning their next phase where they will be teaching and writing. April 22-23, 2016 in Houston will see a new course with Dr. Roxanna Erickson-Klein called Mind/Body Hypnosis and Healing. The newest information on the power of placebo and how to trigger this response will be discussed along with new tools and strategies for pain management and how to develop a challenge mindset rather than a threat perspective. We have discovered new strategies, based in neuroscience, that can make you braver, stronger, happier, and more resilient. Watch for details!!

In June Carol and Bill will be in Los Angeles 13-15 teaching Doing Hypnosis: Interventions to Immediately Transform Clients with Anxiety, Trauma, Stress, Addiction, and Obesity. June 17-19 in Los Angeles we will be teaching Neuroscience for Clinicians. Watch for details!!

If you need to reach Carol call 713 703-8782 and Bill at 832-545-4833

Love,

Carol and Bill

DECEMBER 2015 NEWSLETTER

ARE YOU CAUGHT IN 19TH CENTURY THINKING?

Freud made enormous contributions to our way of thinking about the mind. He borrowed from 19th century Newtonian physics, which held that humans are mechanical and called his process “psychodynamics”. These principles included laws that governed energy and entropy. Freud focused on helping people explore their internal conflicts and early attachments. He believed that by developing insight, people could change their behavior.

Today with the advent of the new physics that evolved from quantum science and research from brain imaging and advances in neuroscience, we have a different understanding of how to enhance motivation to accomplish goals and develop a calmer internal world. While early attachment styles are important to understand, now we know that your mental state is crucial to your emotions and behavior. By changing the way you pay attention to your world, and managing your environment to support the change you want to make, you can change anything. We learn attention habits and practice a narrow focus where the only thing we notice is anxious thinking, or we practice an open focus where we take in other information or focus outside the mind. When you develop flexibility of focus, you feel happier and calmer for longer periods of time. And your thinking changes dramatically.

But if you continue to practice the same mental habits every day, you maintain the same person you think you are. When you direct your attention to what you can become by interrupting old habits of thinking and focusing, you move into immense possibilities for your future. This won’t happen through medication or by accident. It takes mental training by using neurofeedback or intense meditation, exercise, or some mental practice.

How about this experiment: Try to have a worry thought while you focus on the imaginary space between your ears. It’s impossible!

CHRISTMAS SALE

Receive 25% off and free shipping on Dr. Carol Kershaw’s and Dr. Bill Wade’s Brain Change Therapy by ordering directly from W. W. Norton and entering promo code KERSHAW at checkout. This offer is for U.S. customers only and ends 12-30-15. Visit bit.ly/BrainChangeTherapy to order.

Upcoming Activities:

Carol and Bill will be presenting at the International Ericksonian Congress in Phoenix December 11-13., 2015 http://www.ericksoncongress.com

After the first of the year, we will be offering a new online course through Ryan Nagy on Hypnotic Brain Change for Anxiety.

April 22-23, 2016 we will be offering a NEW workshop on mind/body healing based in the latest research. Joining us will be Dr. Roxanna Erickson-Klein, one of Dr. Milton Erickson’s daughters.

We will be closing our clinical practice December 17 to focus on writing and teaching workshops. We are planning our 2016 calendar now so if you are interested in us doing workshops for you, please contact us soon at 713-529-4588 or 713-703-8782 or 832-545-4833

Love,

Carol and Bill

November Newsletter

Can you create the future you want?

Milton Erickson was an amazing clinician who developed a unique therapeutic approach that was amazingly effective. From working on his family farm, he learned a respect for life. He encouraged people’s best decisions, and interrupted negative habitual patterns. We have a poster of Erickson on our office wall with the quote, “whatever you can imagine, you can master.” This was his life philosophy that has influenced us so much. When great people cross your path, it makes you look at your own life and your beliefs about what is possible. Erickson discovered that novel experiences create new learning to open the mind toward the possibility of personal success. When you are on the right path, you feel alive, develop certainty about what to do, and can still be responsible to your family, life partner, and business colleagues. If, however, you feel yourself being critical of others and fighting with them internally or having intense reactions, you may need to look at what is really promoting that response. It may be that you are unhappy with yourself. Your mind hates uncertainty and fear. When you look at your future, you want to know that you can create what you want. First begin with clarity of purpose and develop a workable plan to get there. It is so easy to lose connection with yourself about what lights up your life and to feel like you’re walking through molasses or living other people’s lives instead of yours. If you’re up against a roadblock, it may only mean that the system you’re using isn’t the right one.

To keep moving forward, you must know how to make the best decisions possible. There are several strategies to follow. One approach is to realize that no decision is ever carved in stone. If need be, if things aren’t working, you can always change your mind. Most decisions are really about how to live in the your most comfortable mental state. So, you must identify that first. Then ask how will your decision for change set you up to achieve more of your “target” state? The decision might entail moving to a new city, getting a new job, or starting a new business. Once you complete this personal assessment and you have the plan, take the first step and see what happens.

New Plans for us:

We will be closing our clinical practice in December to focus on writing and teaching workshops. We will be available for skype-type consultations (zoom.us) after the first of the year so please call us to set that up over the next few weeks. Carol: 713 703-8782 or Bill: 832-545-4833.

Upcoming Activites:

We will be teaching at the next 12th International Erickson Congress -Dec. 9-14, 2015. Our courses will focus on cutting edge discoveries in neuroscience and tools for brain change and how to achieve the optimal mind. See www.ericksoncongress.com

Watch for our new online Ericksonian course on Anxiety to be announced.

Our new course April 22-23, 2016 in Houston will focus on Mind/Body Healing and strategies to stimulate the placebo response. Dr. Roxanna-Erickson Klein will join us for a fascinating two days on the latest practical information and tools to help people heal mind/body issues.

Have a great November and Happy Thanksgiving.

Love,
Carol and Bill

October 2015 Newsletter

When you focus on self affirmation, you open into the possibility of changing a behavior that would increase life happiness.  Think about what is important to you and let yourself feel grateful for that.  Gratitude increases the feel good chemical, dopamine, in the brain.

Milton Erickson told the story of trying to get a stubborn cow to go into the barn.  The more he pulled her from the front, the more she stood her ground.  Then he had a brilliant idea.  He went around to the cow’s tail and pulled it.  Sure enough, the cow walked into the barn.

To help change someone else, a person needs to be open to making a change.  But if you are a parent who wants to encourage a child who seems oppositional and combative, being more indirect may be better.  Rather than directly pushing someone to do something he or she is resisting, it can be useful to point out how useful it may be to wait on doing certain things.  It might be better to give this new endeavor a lot of thought and wonder what other needs you have to address first.

Children and adults resist doing certain things for good reason.  Either they are fearful, lack confidence, or just aren’t interested.  Any of these reasons are legitimate.  When you take away the pressure to do something, a person can get in touch with his or her true desires.

Announcement:

Carol and Bill will be closing their clinical practice at the end of the year. They will move into full time teaching workshops and writing.

Upcoming Activities:

The next Online Ericksonian Conference on Anxiety will be offered soon. Watch for the announcement.

April 22-23 2016 Carol and Bill will be a offering a new workshop in Houston on Triggering the Power of Placebo with the latest neuroscience tools. Watch for details.

 

Have a great rest of October.

Love,

Carol and Bill

August Newsletter

CREATE A NEW DESTINY WITH HYPNOSIS

Barbara was so desperate for connection that she kept having the same experience. She would meet someone, hold high hopes for that person, and then feel extremely disappointed when something happened that didn’t fit her model for feeling great satisfaction. Research in neuroscience tells us that experiences we have with caregivers become hard-wired into our brain. By the time we are 3 years old, patterns of emotional understanding and empathy are established.

Barbara didn’t realize that her parents modeled anxious and insecure attachment so that it was difficult for her to soothe herself when alone and to truly connect with another without feeling anxiety and disengaging. Her model and systems for living demanded immediate change without effort. She became disappointed and angry with most new potential partners. Her unconscious expectations once again led to her unconscious and expected outcome.

You were to designed to unlock hidden possibilities. But the next mental state you allow yourself to enter and the behaviors you express will either repeat the past or open into a new future. We teach the concept of positive hypnosis that can help you change how the past is activated in the present. You can change the attachment style you learned in your family by becoming aware of it first. Then, notice your internal movies when around another person. They will be habitual and patterned. Barbara became aware that her disappointment was preceded by fears of being left or controlled by another. Her pattern was to emotionally leave before someone could leave her. Her experience was that others left her.

Where you focus your attention and how you focus can create amazing change. This is the simple explanation for hypnosis. The magic of the right focused attention can change the way your brain functions so that stressful events don’t get in. You can start developing more awareness about your own inner dynamics. Experimenting with accessing your curiosity about what is possible and staying with something or someone for a longer period of time, can result in a more positive outcome, particularly if you can honestly share feelings and disappointments and understand your part in the problem. Sometimes the results occur in a brief amount of time, and sometimes it takes longer to notice a change. You must recondition the mind to have a different experience in your reality. The effort in learning how to use your mind really pays off. You can create a New Destiny.

 

Upcoming Events

Bill and Carol will be presenting at the 12th International Erickson Congress December 9-14, 2015 in Phoenix on SUPER MIND: Accessing the Neuro-Flow State for Achieving the Optimal Self and several panel discussions.

Carol’s book, The Couple’s Hypnotic Dance, is available in kindle format now on Amazon.

Bill and Carol continue to work on their new book.

Have a great rest of the summer.

Love,
Carol and Bill

June Newsletter

WORRY CURES
Worry is a brain problem. When you feel threatened, your amygdala, part of the brain that responds to fear, activates and sends messages to your cortex to evaluate whether you are in real danger. If you keep reviewing everything you are concerned about, the cortex is overwhelmed and leads to worry and looping anxiety. The more you worry about something as a solution to gain control, the more anxious you become. The takeaway is that a worried mind never comes up with great solutions.

Take time to write down your concerns and then prioritize them. As you look at them outside yourself, you will notice some sense of relief. Be sure and only look at them once. Add to that deep belly breathing. Take a deep breath and walk around the block while noticing the scenery and animals.

If you have stomach problems from anxiety, it is helpful to make an anti-anxiety elixir of 1 teaspoon lemon juice, 1 teaspoon ground ginger, and a half teaspoon of honey, taken 3 times per day. This traditional Indian remedy is thought to balance the body by increasing energy in the digestive system, thereby reducing excess energy in the mind. Additionally, studies show that lemon juice lowers blood pressure by strengthening capillaries. Ginger calms the stomach, while honey controls the blood sugar instability that accompanies worrying. We also recommend Rescue Remedy for calming the system that you can get at Whole Foods.

The inner voice inside of you hypnotizes your mind into limitations. This is the voice of judgment and pronouncements. Don’t believe it.

Researchers at the University of Manchester have discovered that your beliefs about worry can make it worse. If your idea is that “worry makes me safe” or “thinking about doing poorly in a performance will make me fail,” or “I can’t control the worry,” the worry thoughts become worse. But what happens when the phone rings? You can’t have a conversation on the phone and engage in worry. It is a good experiment to try to worry more and see what happens. You can interrupt the tendency in a variety of ways.

Train your attention by focusing on a spot and give all of your attention to that spot. Now focus on sounds outside and give all of your attention to those sounds. If your mind wanders, bring it back. Focus on the space in front of you and give all of your attention to it. Focus on the space in back of you and give all of your attention to it. Practice this several minutes each day.

Remember that worry becomes a habit over time. And you can break any habit by interrupting the old way of thinking; shift your mental state by focusing outside yourself on music, scenery, or someone you love. Animals are great for shifting states.

Upcoming Events

Carol and Bill are keynote speakers for the upcoming international online Ericksonian Conference. Their talk is Hypnotic Brain Change for Depression. Watch for the announcement.

Carol and Bill will be teaching their popular 5 day retreat at Esalen July 26-31 Life at the Edge of Possibility Esalen: Life at the Edge of Possibility. Consider attending for rest, renewal, and regeneration.

Love,
Carol and Bill

May Newsletter

Break Free from Worry

You wake up in the morning feeling uneasy; almost a trembling in your stomach.  What causes this bad feeling, you ask yourself?  Could it be the difficult conversation you need to have with your spouse?  Is it that you’re required to lay off someone at your company?  Or are you worried about having enough money to educate your children or retire comfortably?  Your mind goes from one worry to another nonstop!  Then you start all over.  What can you do?

The brain is designed to worry first and think through situations later. We tend to scan the environment for threat, even when we meet friendly people. In fact, you have the tendency to perceive threat in another person’s posture.  The brain reacts to these signals and to other negative input more strongly than positive news. Ironically, this negative bias has served us by keeping us alive. When our ancestors were in hunter-gatherer tribes and saw some tan object in a distance, to mistake the tan rock for a lion only cost a few calories.  To mistake a lion for a tan rock means you ended up lunch.  Fewer of our happy-go-lucky ancestors survived long enough to pass their genes.  We are the decedents of our quick- to- see- danger ancestors.

Even today, if you are a soldier fighting a war, this still gives you an advantage for survival.  Unfortunately, most of our worries aren’t the kind that require that type of immediate negative reaction.  In fact, your tendency to chronically worry can have a negative impact your physical and mental health.  Chronic worry can raise your cholesterol level, blood pressure, lower your immune system, as well as lessening your quality of emotional life.

The good news is you don’t have to be a victim of your genes or learned habits of worry.  Neither do you have to take drugs to move past the worry.  The neuroscience research is filled with studies that demonstrate how to calm your worries and rumination with simple brain change tools.

One powerful tool is meditation.  Years ago Richard Davidson, researcher at the University of Wisconsin Medical School, studied happiness.  One of his subjects was a Tibetan monk whose happiness factor was far greater than the other subjects.  Davidson was curious how this monk’s brain worked.  He placed Matthieu Ricard through a number of brain imaging studies.  What Davidson discovered was because Ricard meditated, the data from EEG’s and FMRI showed a calm and stable brain even when exposed to sudden bursts of loud noises.  Because Davidson could look deeper into the brain with his studies, he found that Ricard’s amygdala, which normally is a part of the brain that signals danger, remained quiet during these times of stress.  The amygdala sends signals to the right prefrontal cortex to send danger signals.  This part of Ricard’s brain was quieter.  The monk’s explanation was that he had meditated many hours in training to be a monk.

Davidson took another group of monk’s to study and found similar results.  He wondered if the normal person could learn to calm the mind without spending hours meditating like the monks.  He took a group of chemical plant workers and taught them how to do basic mindfulness meditation.  In over a 12 week period, meditating 30 minutes a day, 6 days a week, this group reported less stress and worry and more periods of calm.  Those who observed them noticed how much calmer they were as well.  The FMRI’s showed the amygdala quieted as well the right prefrontal cortex.  Further studies have replicated these findings and demonstrated a person can achieve these same results in a short time.

How do you meditate?  Find a comfortable chair and sit down.  Make sure your feet are on the floor.  Place your hands comfortably on your lap.  You can look with a soft gaze about 3 feet in front of you or close your eyes.  Breathe normally. Begin to count your exhalations.  Start with the first breath and give it the number 1 until you have counted 5 breaths.  Begin again.  Any time your mind wanders, whether you think about dinner, your schedule, or some self-judgment, just simply think the work, “thinking,” and let go of the thought and return to counting your breaths.  We suggest begin by doing this meditation 5 minutes.  You can set a timer to let you know when the time is up.  Do this each day at approximately the same time.  If you want at the end of the week, add one minute.  The benefits of mediation are cumulative.  Notice the subtle changes that begin to take place.

 

Upcoming Activities:

Carol and Bill will be teaching in Esalen July 26-31 2015. Join them in an amazing experience of regeneration and life change: Life at the Edge of Possibility

 

Carol and Bill are working on a new book that reveals new strategies based in neuroscience that work for overcoming worry.

As you look toward the summer for some fun and recreation, take some time to review your goals for the year and consider any adjustments you need.

 

Love,

Carol and Bill

APRIL 2015 NEWSLETTER

ACTIVATING YOUR PLACEBO RESPONSE

Jose Silva was a man who had little formal education but was fascinated with the power of the human mind. He studied hypnosis, psychology, and parapsychology and discovered his own ability at extrasensory perception was quite good. He could pick up information while in deep states of mind that would guide him in business and personal matters. Later he developed training courses that became world wide education on mind expansion. While his ideas might be considered primitive today, the neuroscience research suggest he was on the right track when it came to remote viewing and activating the healing response.

Years later research on the placebo response found that when people believed they were getting a medical intervention, they miraculously overcame health challenges. A new study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences is suggesting a person can indeed have a placebo response even when they’re unaware of any suggestion of improvement or anticipation of getting worse. Researchers discovered that the unconscious mind plays an important role in people getting better. So if you believe in the placebo response and say take a supplement for a cold, even if you don’t consciously believe it will help, it actually activates the placebo response. You can trigger your own healing response. The power of the placebo effect is illustrated in the movie classic, The Wizard Of Oz.  The wizard didn’t actually give the scarecrow a brain, the tin man a heart, and the lion courage, but they all felt better anyway because they believed it to be true. Now we know, even if they didn’t believe, they would have increased intelligence, empathy and love, and courage without doing anything.

Upcoming Activities:

Carol and Bill are offering a new course that goes beyond Silva Mind Training: Consciousness Exploration and Training: The Science of Personal Change one Friday per month 11-1pm beginning April 24 for 6 sessions. Space is limited so call to reserve your place: 713 529-4588. We will be exploring your abilities to calm the mind in any situation, use remote viewing, pick up information through your 6th sense, and overcome limiting beliefs.

Carol and Bill have been contacted by a major publisher to do a self-help book based on their professional book.

July 26-31 they will be offering their popular Esalen course: Life at the Edge of Possibility

Have a wonderful April.

Love,

Carol and Bill

YOUR HOMING THOUGHT

John experienced a trauma at a young age when his parents divorced. At the time, he made an unconscious decision to never leave a woman even if she was cruel and demeaning. When he followed through on this decision, he gave his identity over to a woman who had not resolved her own pain from the family of origin and instead, chose to act it out through rejection, judgment, meanness, and cruel behavior. John’s energy continued to be lost to this woman, and until he reclaimed himself by making difficult decisions, life was unsatisfying. He realized over time, that he also participated in the negative behavior by slamming it back. Each of us has a driving purpose for being on the planet. It is what you do that transcends everything. And when you are clear about it, no amount of negativity, adversity, or drama in life can knock you off the path for good. And you discover there is really no need for drama at all. Personal power is only available to you when it comes out of the center of yourself. The homing thought is greater than a goal. When you begin to explore some of the possibilities, write them down and notice if there is a theme. This is the guiding north star in your life. It may be a connection you feel greater than yourself to a universal spirit. While the connection will go through different developmental processes and evolve over time, it is your rock, your center. Once you find it, think about something stressful and notice how it does not knock you down. For example, one homing thought is being healthy and this guides diet, exercise, activities, etc. without you really thinking about it too much. Or another homing thought is in this time of my life, how do I want to best express the gifts that have been given me. If at some point in life you were at a fork in the road and took the path away from your homing thought, you will be in a constant state of stress. When you ask yourself, “what gives meaning to my life”? and “when do I feel most energized?” then you come back to yourself. When you are directed by love, gratitude, and appreciation, you are on track with your highest self.

Upcoming Events

Carol and Bill will be offering a course on Consciousness Exploration and Training: The Science of Personal Change over the course of 6 months on selected Fridays 11-1pm. Through examining your astounding abilities to center yourself, overcome limiting beliefs, and go deeper into exploring your higher self, you will discover how to calm the mind wherever you are, and how to eliminate emotional stress, worry, fear, doubt, and lack of confidence. Join them as they bring some of the material from their popular course taught at Esalen which includes accessing the power of intention, remote viewing, and self hypnosis to accomplish personal goals. You will have the opportunity to set your personal learning agenda for the 6 months. Dates: 4-24, 5-5, 6-19, 7-10, 8-21, and 9-18 Fee: $600 for entire course payable in monthly installments Place: 3400 Bissonnet Suite 267 Call for reserving your space with $100 deposit-713 529-4588 Join Carol and Bill July 26-31 at Esalen: Life at the Edge of Possibility

Love,
Carol and Bill

CAN WE HAVE YOUR ATTENTION?

Several years ago we traveled to England’s countryside and met a gentleman who showed us his rose garden. He was proud of its beauty, and it gave him immense pleasure to share this treasure with friends and surprise visits from people like us. The roses were some of the largest and richest in color we had seen. The attention he gave to each one reminded us of a kindly grandfather taking care of a grand child.     He took time with each rose and talked to it as if it were a living person. In doing so, his life was rich and joyful.

Attention is what gives life meaning and a range of emotions that color your experiences. How you pay attention can determine the quality of your very life. When you learn to increase the power of attention, it can create deeper relationships, develop less reactivity, more humor and satisfaction with each day.

But, attention is fragile and must be nurtured like a rose garden. We can ask if there are things we need to let go of in 2015 to be able to nurture ourselves better? Rather than being in pursuit of something, can we take time to pay attention to our inner spirit and nourish it? What would it be like for you to slow down to the best version of yourself?

To be more aware of your inner life, some time in mindfulness meditation or prayer slows the internal chatter so you can hear your higher self. Then you can experience more elevated emotions such as love, joy, gratitude for the simple things in life. This practice expands consciousness to the level of wisdom and understanding that all minds are connected and omnipresent. You have great capacities to be personally aware, to receive information about people you focus on, to fulfill your higher destiny.

Upcoming Events

Bill and Carol will be offering a once per month group experience in Consciousness Exploration with hypnosis, remote viewing, and mindfulness meditation. When you discover your innate capabilities, you will be astounded. Ceu’s will be available for clinicians. Watch for details.

 

We wish you a wonderful February!

Love,

Carol and Bill

January 2015 Newsletter

Each year we have the immense pleasure of teaching for Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California. This magical place is named for the Esselen Indian tribe who lived there dating back to 2600 BC. The Esselen people believed they were connected to everything, and all things were alive.—the rocks, universe, the ocean, and everything had power and energy. They gave everything a name based on how they perceived its energy. For these people, the physical world they could see and the spirit world they could sense were interconnected.

This Indian tribe was extremely spiritual. Some of their cave paintings show human figures passing through portals into a new dimension, perhaps representing transformation. They believed in allowing all members of the tribe to express their uniqueness, and they sustained the idea that each member held a piece of transformative truth. Holding a deep reverence for everything and everyone, they practiced rituals to promote unity and oneness.

Each time we are in this sacred space at Esalen, our consciousness is touched, changed, transformed, and we are given the gift of interacting with the community, the land, and the sea. Michael Murphy along with his colleague and friend Dick Price, began this amazing retreat and educational center, to explore the potential for extraordinary life. It becomes clear with each experience in this enchanted place that “we live only part of the life we are given,” as Michael Murphy said in The Future of the Body. We all limit our lives.

You have extraordinary abilities and potential. When you can calm the ego’s defenses, or the fears that emerge in experiences where you feel a loss of power and status, and you listen to the Source that is accessed from a deeper place inside, you always know what to do. The process involves observing what is happening, reflecting on it, going inside, and quietly listening for some intuition or understanding, then action becomes clear and can be performed in a state of flow. This is the act of working with a greater reality than yourself.

What is it we touch when we go inside? Certainly some deeper aspect of ourselves activates that we call the quantum self. But we interact with a greater field that is everywhere often referred to as the Source. The Source is that universal energy that is the creator, sustainer, guider and field of information that Elmer Green, father of biofeedback, described long ago.

UPCOMING ACTIVITIES:

Carol and Bill have been invited once again to teach their popular course, Life at the Edge of Possibility, for Esalen Institute in Big Sur, Ca. July 26-31, 2015. Watch for the link.

Bill has been asked to speak at the Jade Buddhist Temple. Watch for Spring dates TBA.
Both Carol and Bill are invited to the Erickson Congress in December 8-13 where they will be presenting The Possible Life: Hypnosis and the Whole Brain State

Our very best to each of you for a wonderful year.

Love,
Carol and Bill

DO YOU REMEMBER

Jonathan Livingston Seagull? He yearned to learn more than his flock would allow and become all he could be. He discovered from his mentor that he was unlimited in what he could learn. His mentor told him, “You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and nothing can stand in your way.”
When you take time to pause and look within, do you experience the same thing?
During this holiday season, many become aware of an inner yearning for connection to something deeper. While the parties and gift giving are fun, taking time for self-reflection is important. Not only examining what you are grateful for is timely, but really asking yourself if you are frustrated, irritable, and yearning for something more in life, just what is it?

Yearning might be a state of preparation for developing and exploring your higher consciousness, the deepest aspects of self. Some moments of asking, “what do I want now?” can be valuable. “Do I want more adventure, deeper relationships, better health, more time with family?” Can you really have a dream life for the most part?

When we quiet the mind and move to a deeper place inside, there is no yearning because there is fulfillment. And there is no striving for something else. There is just the deepest experience of your self. You are a gift to the world, and you don’t have to be any more.

But you may want to make adjustments in your everyday world. Some moments of reflection to assess what to do can be helpful. It can be as simple as focusing on your breath for 5 minutes, petting a cat, listening to Mozart, or focusing on the imaginary space between your eyes inside your head. When you shut off the internal running dialogue, the mind rests and renews.


UPCOMING EVENTS:

Carol has been asked to write a chapter for a new hypnosis book on working with couples hypnotically.
Carol and Bill are also working on a new proposal for a book for the public that simplifies their ideas from Brain Change Therapy. The book focuses on several brain tools to shift mental states into the flow zone. There has been an explosion of new research from Russia that supports the idea again that humans have many more abilities that we ever thought like receiving information from the field of information that Elmer Green, father of biofeedback, so long ago discussed.

Watch for a new workshop in the near future on these amazing cutting edge ideas that can boost life to the next level.

Our best for a wonderful holiday.

Love,
Carol and Bill