CAN WE HAVE YOUR ATTENTION?

Several years ago we traveled to England’s countryside and met a gentleman who showed us his rose garden. He was proud of its beauty, and it gave him immense pleasure to share this treasure with friends and surprise visits from people like us. The roses were some of the largest and richest in color we had seen. The attention he gave to each one reminded us of a kindly grandfather taking care of a grand child.     He took time with each rose and talked to it as if it were a living person. In doing so, his life was rich and joyful.

Attention is what gives life meaning and a range of emotions that color your experiences. How you pay attention can determine the quality of your very life. When you learn to increase the power of attention, it can create deeper relationships, develop less reactivity, more humor and satisfaction with each day.

But, attention is fragile and must be nurtured like a rose garden. We can ask if there are things we need to let go of in 2015 to be able to nurture ourselves better? Rather than being in pursuit of something, can we take time to pay attention to our inner spirit and nourish it? What would it be like for you to slow down to the best version of yourself?

To be more aware of your inner life, some time in mindfulness meditation or prayer slows the internal chatter so you can hear your higher self. Then you can experience more elevated emotions such as love, joy, gratitude for the simple things in life. This practice expands consciousness to the level of wisdom and understanding that all minds are connected and omnipresent. You have great capacities to be personally aware, to receive information about people you focus on, to fulfill your higher destiny.

Upcoming Events

Bill and Carol will be offering a once per month group experience in Consciousness Exploration with hypnosis, remote viewing, and mindfulness meditation. When you discover your innate capabilities, you will be astounded. Ceu’s will be available for clinicians. Watch for details.

 

We wish you a wonderful February!

Love,

Carol and Bill

January 2015 Newsletter

Each year we have the immense pleasure of teaching for Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California. This magical place is named for the Esselen Indian tribe who lived there dating back to 2600 BC. The Esselen people believed they were connected to everything, and all things were alive.—the rocks, universe, the ocean, and everything had power and energy. They gave everything a name based on how they perceived its energy. For these people, the physical world they could see and the spirit world they could sense were interconnected.

This Indian tribe was extremely spiritual. Some of their cave paintings show human figures passing through portals into a new dimension, perhaps representing transformation. They believed in allowing all members of the tribe to express their uniqueness, and they sustained the idea that each member held a piece of transformative truth. Holding a deep reverence for everything and everyone, they practiced rituals to promote unity and oneness.

Each time we are in this sacred space at Esalen, our consciousness is touched, changed, transformed, and we are given the gift of interacting with the community, the land, and the sea. Michael Murphy along with his colleague and friend Dick Price, began this amazing retreat and educational center, to explore the potential for extraordinary life. It becomes clear with each experience in this enchanted place that “we live only part of the life we are given,” as Michael Murphy said in The Future of the Body. We all limit our lives.

You have extraordinary abilities and potential. When you can calm the ego’s defenses, or the fears that emerge in experiences where you feel a loss of power and status, and you listen to the Source that is accessed from a deeper place inside, you always know what to do. The process involves observing what is happening, reflecting on it, going inside, and quietly listening for some intuition or understanding, then action becomes clear and can be performed in a state of flow. This is the act of working with a greater reality than yourself.

What is it we touch when we go inside? Certainly some deeper aspect of ourselves activates that we call the quantum self. But we interact with a greater field that is everywhere often referred to as the Source. The Source is that universal energy that is the creator, sustainer, guider and field of information that Elmer Green, father of biofeedback, described long ago.

UPCOMING ACTIVITIES:

Carol and Bill have been invited once again to teach their popular course, Life at the Edge of Possibility, for Esalen Institute in Big Sur, Ca. July 26-31, 2015. Watch for the link.

Bill has been asked to speak at the Jade Buddhist Temple. Watch for Spring dates TBA.
Both Carol and Bill are invited to the Erickson Congress in December 8-13 where they will be presenting The Possible Life: Hypnosis and the Whole Brain State

Our very best to each of you for a wonderful year.

Love,
Carol and Bill

DO YOU REMEMBER

Jonathan Livingston Seagull? He yearned to learn more than his flock would allow and become all he could be. He discovered from his mentor that he was unlimited in what he could learn. His mentor told him, “You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and nothing can stand in your way.”
When you take time to pause and look within, do you experience the same thing?
During this holiday season, many become aware of an inner yearning for connection to something deeper. While the parties and gift giving are fun, taking time for self-reflection is important. Not only examining what you are grateful for is timely, but really asking yourself if you are frustrated, irritable, and yearning for something more in life, just what is it?

Yearning might be a state of preparation for developing and exploring your higher consciousness, the deepest aspects of self. Some moments of asking, “what do I want now?” can be valuable. “Do I want more adventure, deeper relationships, better health, more time with family?” Can you really have a dream life for the most part?

When we quiet the mind and move to a deeper place inside, there is no yearning because there is fulfillment. And there is no striving for something else. There is just the deepest experience of your self. You are a gift to the world, and you don’t have to be any more.

But you may want to make adjustments in your everyday world. Some moments of reflection to assess what to do can be helpful. It can be as simple as focusing on your breath for 5 minutes, petting a cat, listening to Mozart, or focusing on the imaginary space between your eyes inside your head. When you shut off the internal running dialogue, the mind rests and renews.


UPCOMING EVENTS:

Carol has been asked to write a chapter for a new hypnosis book on working with couples hypnotically.
Carol and Bill are also working on a new proposal for a book for the public that simplifies their ideas from Brain Change Therapy. The book focuses on several brain tools to shift mental states into the flow zone. There has been an explosion of new research from Russia that supports the idea again that humans have many more abilities that we ever thought like receiving information from the field of information that Elmer Green, father of biofeedback, so long ago discussed.

Watch for a new workshop in the near future on these amazing cutting edge ideas that can boost life to the next level.

Our best for a wonderful holiday.

Love,
Carol and Bill

CHANGE YOUR STATE WITH A MIND GLOBE

CHANGE YOUR STATE WITH A MIND GLOBE

As we come up to the holidays, it is helpful to think ahead about how you will manage the stress. While fun, these times can put you into states of overarousal. Your mental states that precede thoughts and feelings influence your health. And your own mental suggestions, negative judgments of others without input from them, beliefs about what is true, and fears influence your daily life experience. What you think about repetitively completely changes how you feel throughout the day. If you think you will have a bad day, chances are you will.

If you begin to notice negative thoughts and mental states, interrupt them. You can shift your state very quickly and actually do this many times a day. When you find yourself making judgments of others without understanding their intentions (and most everyone has good intentions), examine benign explanations. How often do you think about Monday as being a pain to get up and go to work? Or do the negative states have a victim mentality to them?

Underlying this negativity are interesting theories that are usually not true.
Watch for certain themes you might be expressing. Some of us hear ourselves saying “it is just to hard to go to the gym,” or “I can’t stop eating sugar.”

The latest brain tool is the Mind Globe. You can take any snow globe, shake it up, and watch the snow gently fall to the bottom. Let the falling snow be your negative states or thoughts. As they settle gently on the bottom, your negativity disappears. Everything is impermanent. And the content of your mind disappears like ocean waves that come and go. You can also make your own Mind Globe by taking a mason jar, fill it with water, and sprinkle glitter into it. Then shake it and watch your mind shift into a calm state. Each time you use the Mind Globe you gracefully reinvent yourself with a few moments of profound change.

Remember, you must have positive experiences each day to deactivate the 1200 stress genes that turn on chronic illness. These positive moments strengthen new neural pathways that lead to peak performance. Changing your experience and behavior ultimately requires changes in your brain’s pattern of activity.


ACTIVITIES ON THE HORIZON:

Bill and Carol are working on a new book for the public and hope to have the proposal finished soon.

They just returned from Italy where they taught and enjoyed the beautiful scenery of the Amalfi Coast. And there they were invited to teach in Denmark and Germany.

We wish all of you a very Happy Thanksgiving!

Love, 
Carol and Bill

OCTOBER 2014 NEWSLETTER

POWER MOVES IN RELATIONSHIPS

The balance of power in relationships is often unconsciously maneuvered by people trying to maintain a one-up position, a one-down position, or both a one-up and one-down position. Their unconscious life pattern drives the learned behaviors. The move is toward dominance over the other with the implication that one person is in charge of making the rules. In order to stay in the relationship, the other person must acquiesce.

Because we are wired up neurologically to feel threat, it is difficult for people to speak their truth to each other.   The risk is that the other person might leave, a move toward dominance, or that individual might collapse emotionally, a move toward dependency with the hidden message of “please take care of me.”

The antidote to maneuvering power is to expand your consciousness through building your own self compassion and compassion to others. One of the best ways to accomplish this is to spend time in nature.

When we were teaching in Esalen, a photographer shared some of his beautiful photographs of the area, both the scenery and the animals. He described the Esalen Indian tribe who lived hundreds of years ago and believed they walked through portals in time and space to appear in Big Sur, and the earth intimately supported their lives.

One special photo was of a whale that swam up close to the photographer’s boat and looked at him eye to eye. Four years later he was boating again in a different area, and a whale came along side him. The enormous animal had the same markings under one eye and again looked deeply into his eyes. Remarkably, it was the same whale. There was some transformative moment of conscious connection.

When you understand we are all connected, there is no room for maneuvering power. When you open your heart to another, and settle the mind, you experience enough love to go around.

Upcoming Events:

Bill and Carol will be teaching in Italy this month on   deep state hypnosis for developing resilience.

They have also been invited again next summer to teach for Esalen.

Take care of yourselves this month and enjoy life.

 

Love, Carol and Bill

HEALING THE CORE WOUND

The core wound is a trauma that occurs sometime in childhood and unless addressed, it hangs around throughout life. One mother left her daughter with a great aunt and didn’t return until the child was 8 years old. Then the child had to figure out how to grieve losing her great aunt and reconnect with her mother who returned expecting her to love her. She felt insecure for many years.

Trauma may be in the form of abandonment during the formation of internal security, or betrayal through emotional or physical abuse or neglect. Or it could have been in the form of observing your parent abuse the other one. This powerful hurt can result in a child feeling like s/he cannot trust others; problems with healthy attachment; i.e.; problems with making and keeping contact with friends or loved ones, tendencies to chase after or put up with people who are mean to you, or twining with your partner by having no emotional space, which results in never being able to do anything separately. Or, because of anxiety, it may be that you have problems with following through sexually with your partner.

If you have trouble shifting mental states, which we talk about as so important in living a healthy life, it may be that you are still suffering with these hurts. It is likely that you need to build the developmental learning that allows you to move into healthy functioning. This is done by hypnotically building security and learning that the fearful feeling that arises in relation to others is just a habituated response learned a long time ago. Then we tell a story to ourselves about why we feel the feeling, and overlay a future expectation on to the story. To learn how to interrupt the story and the inner movie, move into calmer states, and shift from a negative expectation to curiosity about what is possible. Some times this is much easier done with a therapist. And by the way, anything is really possible. This is crucial in creating a new future.

Upcoming Events:

Carol and Bill will be travelling to Italy to present two workshops in their work in resilience and trauma.

Carol’s book, The Couple’s Hypnotic Dance is avialable as an ebook on Amazon now.

Have a great rest of the summer.

Visit our facebook page: The Milton Erickson Inst of Houston

Love,
Carol and Bill

WHAT IS YOUR STRESS MINDSET?

The new data comes from a study published by Yale psychologist Alia Crum and team (2013). They identified the stress “mindset,” the mental “frame or lens” that you use when you approach and understand an experience. If you have a negative stress mindset, you believe, for example, that you should avoid stress at all costs, that it saps your energy, and that it inhibits your ability to grow. If your stress mindset is positive, you feel that it makes you healthier, and that it enhances your performance and productivity.

Crum and her colleagues found that people with a positive stress mindset were in fact better able to handle laboratory-induced stress. In a work context, they were also more likely to seek feedback on their performance, which in turn would allow them to grow even more from their experiences, even the stress-provoking ones. The moral of the story is that if you want to handle stress more effectively, don’t label all stress as bad. Try to look at stress with a positive mindset and you will, in fact, be better able to cope with it.

Stress begets stress
This next secret comes from a fascinating line of research based on what’s called the “stress generation” hypothesis. According to this view, people play an active role in creating their own stressful life events by virtue of the way they handle their everyday life situations. We might call this the “Debbie Downer” principle (named after the Rachel Dratch Saturday Night Live character). When you allow your internal feelings of stress to leak to your external behavior, you create an aura of negativity that drives other people away. This doesn’t mean that you have to fake being happy when you’re not, but that by letting stress get to you in a chronic manner, your interactions with others can suffer.
By shifting into alpha and calming the mind, you dissolve stress immediately. Relax the tongue from the back to the front and treat it like a little boat floating in water. Breathe more deeply and focus the mind on the space around the body. (More on this later) When you focus like this, you create brain synchrony; or hemispheric balance. The result is that you feel great!

Upcoming Events:

Bill and Carol will be running their 5-day retreat at Esalen on Life at the Edge of Possibility in beautiful Big Sur.

Carol and Bill have been invited to Italy to present in October on Hypnosis and the Quantum Self.

Watch for the next announcement on a new course to be offered in Houston and San Diego.

We hope your summer is going well.

Love,

Carol and Bill

June Newsletter

ARE YOU RUNNING STEPHEN KING MOVIES IN YOUR MIND?

This is the cure.

Stephen King is a prolific writer of the most intense and frightening horror movies ever witnessed. But, how often do you engage in an internal movie of the mind-marathon of the worst possible future scenarios? We often try to predict the future so to protect against difficult surprises by constructing elaborate internal films.

How often do you engage in anxious conversation? Unintentionally, these conversations turn on the anxiety brain circuit, reinforce the experience of anxiety, and start negative movies in the mind. The more you run these internal horror movies, the worse you will feel. This process deregulates the autonomic nervous system and begins to dump stress chemicals in the body.

Anxiety is a problem of habituated emotional states and is an existential condition where the fluid future is one that we must learn to live with. The ability to imagine worst-case scenarios is not maladaptive. We must learn how to deal with the uncertainty of life.

How we do this is that someone either in childhood or adulthood models either how to deal with disappointment, desire, and fear. Then, we internalize how to deal with anxiety. This can occur through therapeutic conversations and learning how to calm your mind through distraction, meditation, or something else that is more positive and interesting.

There is no chemical imbalance in the brain. This is a myth promoted by the drug companies to sell more drugs. In fact, drugs often make things worse. Side effects of medications to calm anxiety often result in more anxiety or depression. Because the rewards out weigh the costs, some people may do well on short-term medications. But people on cocktails of medicines over time usually do not improve (See Robert Whitaker’s book, The Anatomy of an Epidemic.)

Things normally get better when a person is in a loving community or relationship that reinforces positive mental states and behavior. But each individual must focus on mental training to regulate the mind’s tendency to run a horror movie du jour.

Upcoming Events:

CONSCIOUSNESS TRANSFORMATION WITH STRATEGIC BRAIN CHANGE TOOLS

Our new online course is now ready. Check out this most cutting edge course that will Shift Your Reality of what is Possible.

ESALEN

Carol and Bill will be running their popular week retreat at Esalen July 20-25. Join us for a time of renewal and regeneration as we lead Life At The Edge Of Possibly where you can explore areas you need a breakthrough and a plan to accomplish it when you return home. (Link)

ITALY

Carol and Bill have been invited to Italy in October to teach the latest cutting edge material on Brain Change.

Love,

Carol and Bill

RAGE OUTBURSTS TRIGGER HEART ATTACKS

New research from Harvard discovered that anger outbursts can trigger cardiovascular events such as stroke and heart attacks within two hours of the outburst.  The study said, “Psychological stress has been shown to increase heart rate and blood pressure, and vascular resistance. Changes in blood flow can cause blood clots and may stimulate inflammatory responses.”  Within two hours after an outburst, potential heart attack is increased five times, and potential arrhythmia increases three times.

To heal a hostile heart, use mindfulness training.  Just five minutes a day, focus on your breathing and allow thoughts to come and go.  In a recent study, one day of meditation resulted in participants turning off genes that create inflammatory effects in the body.  If you can’t get a Stephen King movie out of your mind, imagine running it backwards three times.

Taking a walk is always a great way to relieve stress.  But being curious about your response to something that happens is helpful.  We tend to miss people’s loving intentions in their behaviors toward us and project hurt and pain outwardly when we perceive others as trying to harm us.

Upcoming Events:

Carol and Bill are offering a once per month webinar beginning May 15 for five months called Consciousness Transformation with Strategic Brain Change Tools The first session is: Session 1: Shifting Reality with Clinical Hypnosis.

Module One: Expanding Reality

Discover the latest research and practical applications of expanding the reality of your clients and yourself with hypnotic suggestion, retrieval of resources, and practicing target mental states.

For the rest of webinar titles click here

July 20-25 Carol and Bill will once again be in Esalen running their popular week-long retreat. Join them for renewal and regeneration and a wonderful way to get your life back on track.

Have a wonderful May.

Love,

Carol and Bill

 

HOW TO REVIVE A CRUSHED CHILDHOOD DREAM

Did you ever have a dream as a child and someone told you it was impossible?  Or did you give it up because adult life became too difficult?

What stopped you?  Did you find your passion wasn’t there—did you give up because you didn’t have mentoring? Did you give up because you wouldn’t settle for anything less than the gold metal?

Was your dream worth you?  Did you really want it?  Or did you want something else?  Did you give up out of frustration—did someone discourage you from trying?

What was important about the goal—what experience were you wanting?

In the Field of Dreams movie, Burt Lancaster’s character, Doc, becomes his younger self to fill in a missing life experience of being a major baseball player.  It was something he regretted not doing.  He went back to have the fulfilling experience but what he realized was bigger than that.  Kevin Costner’s character looks to Doc to help revive his daughter who takes a bad fall and is not breathing.  Doc knows if he crosses the line marking the baseball field, he won’t be able to remain in the big game.   He crosses the line, saves the girl, and realizes being a doctor was his life calling and was extremely fulfilling.

When we were teaching a workshop in Oklahoma City a couple of years ago, we went to Brick Town and saw an older man who was singing and playing in a blues band.  It was so much fun to be a part of the experience with a group of people that loved being there.  We wondered if singing and playing the harmonica in a blues band had been a lifelong dream of his.  We asked around and discovered that he was a dentist during the day and living out a dream on the weekend.  He was well respected for his professional craft and received rave reviews for his hobby.  And the joy he provided was fantastic.

Where do people’s childhood dreams go?  If you didn’t live your dream, did someone discourage you; did the reality of your “believed” limitations stand in your way?  What was it about that dream that you had a passion for?

Some times people quit because they don’t think they can make it; or there is a lot of work involved or they are frightened.  Take a moment and remember your dream?

Like this dentist who helped many people, and who decided to revive his passion for the blues, you can still do what you wanted.

He decided to create his dream, even though it was in a different form that he had originally thought.

Fulfilled dreams are the work of imagination, inspiration, passion, risk-taking, and hard work.

Just sit for a moment, take a deep breath, and let yourself imagine what is your dream and what is your goal?  What did you need then and what do you need now to fulfill that dream?  Breathe it in, and think what you can accomplish when you put your mind to it.

Upcoming Events

Carol and Bill will be teaching a new course April 25-26, 2014 in Houston called Strategic Neurocoaching:  7 Brain Change Tools for Overcoming Trauma and Activating the Optimal Mind.  Sign up for the most cutting-edge and new therapeutic tools to be the most effect change agents.  At the workshop they will be describing the Certification Process in Brain Change Therapy for those who are interested in making their therapy cutting-edge.  Some of this can be accomplished through online training.  Call for more information:   713 529-4588

Carol is coming out with a new cd called Quantum Self:  Hypno-Bilateral Stimulation to Overcome Trauma and Achieve the Optimal Mind.  She has partnered with a German composer who has created bilateral music for therapy.  The cd uses both hypnosis and bilateral music for accessing the best future self and is for anyone who has ever had an upsetting experience that has been difficult to overcome.  Watch for the announcement.

In May they will be launching their first online course called Neurocoaching the Mind: A Brain-Based Approach for Business, Financial, and Life Success.

July 20-25 Carol and Bill will once again hold their annual retreat at Esalen in California.  Join them for deep personal breakthrough change in one of the most beautiful places in the world.

Have a wonderful April!

Love,

Carol and Bill

March Newsletter

What Limiting Myths Are Holding You Back?

You have been living under several psychological myths. With the advent of neuroscience discoveries, we learn that Darwin was incorrect.

It is not survival of the fittest, but those who cooperate the most, who are successful.

We have assumed that we must fight for everything, but the truth is far from this notion. Nature reflects this new idea everywhere. Our own bodies are a cooperative effort between cells, organs, and systems to keep us well and alive.

Freud was incorrect. We are not at war with our hidden dark forces. When our minds are calm, we know what to do.

We do not need to go on archeological digs into our own history to be free from dysfunctional patterns of thinking and being. Our mind/body has built in abilities to correct negative experiences in life. You can do, be, have more well-being than you think.

Another myth recently dispelled is that only living things have consciousness. But now we know everything in the universe has consciousness. The universe is conscious, creative, and coherent. All aspects contain self-organization and intentionality, and needs our respect and concern for its well-being.

More science is revealing that human life demonstrates incredible design, and we share minds in what is called entanglement in a matrix of energy. The truth is we are all connected.

We experience many turning points in our lives. These are the choice points, the fork in the road, the zero hour that gives us the opportunity to re-evaluate the direction of our lives, dispel our own personal myths (what are yours?) and make a change for the better. These opportunities can come through loss, gifts, transformative conversations, or grand experiences of being in a group that creates something greater than any individual. The latter is the blend of individual consciousness into a group mind that may represent what occurs all of the time outside of our awareness.

There is a positive shift occurring in the world. We can engage in the shift by doing the following:

  1. Make physical/spiritual health a priority
  2. Engage spiritual practices that leads to a change in priorities
  3. Build cooperative relationships that are uplifting
  4. Take courses in consciousness studies and expand personal awareness
  5. Align with our soul’s inner essence and desires for the greater good

Upcoming Events:

Bill and Carol will be teaching their April 25-26 workshop: Strategic Neurocoaching: ™ 7 Brain Change Tools for Activating the Optimal Mind. We will give clinicians the latest strategies and interventions to help clients overcome trauma and move to thriving. The seminar will present an easy framework to plug into the therapy you already do, and take your therapy results to the next level of success. There is one key difference between a clinician who gets clients to make extraordinary change, and one who achieves average success. That is understanding the latest discoveries in brain science and how to use them in a practical way. Register now.

May will see the launch of our online course: Neurocoaching the Mind for Business, Financial, and Life Success. Watch for it.

Esalen: Bill and Carol will once again present their popular 5 day retreat in Big Sur July 20-25. This is an opportunity to spend quality time with us and make transformative change in one of the most beautiful settings in the world.

Have a wonderful March.

Love and Wisdom,

Carol and Bill

Online Ericksonian Conference: Solutions for Trauma

“Are you getting the results that you want with your traumatized clients?”

Join us for this online conference and instantly begin learning how you can create breakthrough change with your clients who are dealing with trauma.”

Attend at anytime (no fixed dates) and from anywhere…without spending 1000′s of dollars on conference fees, airfares and hotels.

What You Will Learn:

  • Be much more confident in your ability to treater even the most traumatized client.
  • How you can integrate effective trauma treatments into your practice and life.
  • Critical decision factors for how and when to use mindfulness for trauma.
  • The three core mindfulness practice skills (and how to adapt them to the unique needs of each client.
  • How you can integrate effective hypnotic trauma treatments into your practice (and have a MUCH bigger toolbox to use when treating traumatized clients).
  • Understand and use hypnotic memory reconsolidation.
  • The difference between productive recall work and destructive recall work and how to create safe contexts and environments. (So your client can learn new positive emotional meanings).
  • How to help create a new sense of self so that the clients grows more confident and more emotionally prepared to deal with future challenges.
  • Work with people and problems that you had never been able to work with before (and diversify your practice)
    Short and subtle ways of dealing with trauma that work respectfully with a wide variety of clients (even with those who have been repeatedly traumatized).
  • How to stop a person from becoming a “victim” of the treatment itself.
  • How to view trauma and even PTSD as a process rather than a condition (so that you can be create more effective interventions).
  • Flexible and unique ways of working with patients that respect their individuality and beliefs.
  • A great deal more…

Register today.

THE AMAZING BREAKTHROUGH METHOD IN BRAIN SCIENCE CALLED NON-THINKING

How can you increase creativity and connect your intentions for goal attainment?

Neuroscience has discovered the special mental state called non-thinking is key in developing ideas, solutions, and habit shifts. Non-thinking is the default state your mind moves into when you daydream or are quiet. But you can train this state, and it has great benefits.

You can solve any problem, break habitual habits, or figure out how to increase your finances. You can develop your intuition, devise a plan for the future, or improve your relationships.

William James in 1911 suggested a process for achieving non-thinking that included setting a goal and “unclamping” from the outcome. This means allowing your mind to relax and flow without criticism. Any idea that surfaces you can just allow it to be or write it down without analysis.

Physical exercise is a great way to facilitate this neural process. When you perspire and focus on moving the body, you unhinge from habitual thinking patterns. But mental exercise through meditation on a repetitive sound or image produces similar results. The use of daydreaming on purpose or allowing the mind to wander develops the creative state as well.

The father of biofeedback, Elmer Green, talked about relaxing the mind to enter the “field of information,” the matrix of electromagnetic energy, he said, where all information resides. While he used a biofeedback device for this, your own inner space and connection with the source field may allow you to sense the many futures that lie ahead so you may determine the alternatives.

Do you remember the magic potion in Harry Potter called Felix Felicis? When consumed, it allowed Harry to know exactly what to do to solve problems and kept him in a happy state of mind. Perhaps we actually have this ability.

When we were in Hawaii several years ago, we discovered that their shamans or kahunas believe that thoughts affect how the future develops and that by gaining mastery over the mind, you gain influence over the future. More recently, Bruce Lipton, cell biologist, discovered it is the inner environment that influences future events in gene expression.

When you practice non-thinking, you influence your mental state and your future.

UPCOMING EVENTS:

February 15 is the first early date for a reduced fee for our workshop: Strategic Neurocoaching™ for Trauma: 7 Brain Change Tools for Activating the Optimal Mind

Many problems are related to traumatic experiences that have not been resolved.

We will be discussing how to help clients resolve small or great traumas to active a high performance mind and the latest neuroscience tools to accomplish this. This is the first time we have offered this course, and we will be talking further about non-thinking.

This workshop is approved nationally for 12 ceu’s. Call us for information: 713 529-4588

Have a wonderful February.

January, 2014 Newsletter

YOUR BEST BIOFEEDBACK SYSTEM

Researchers in Finland have discovered how emotions are experienced in the body. They found that strong feelings stimulate body sensations, and these are cross-cultural. They concluded “Emotions adjust not only our mental, but also our bodily states”. We tend to use our body sensations as feedback to ourselves to make alterations in our mental states and behavior.

We often tell our clients that your body is your best biofeedback instrument. If you pay attention to it, you can live in happier states of mind for longer periods of time by making adjustments. Elmer Green, father of biofeedback, used to say that with feedback, you can change anything.

Our vagal nerve is also involved in staying cool under pressure. Where you focus attention (your mindset) and how you behave can create a positive snowball effect through a feedback loop linked to stimulating your vagus nerve.

Healthy vagal tone is indicated by a slight increase of heart rate when you inhale, and a decrease of heart rate when you exhale. When we use diaphragmatic breathing and exhale with long breaths to the count of 4 or 5, the vagus nerve turns on and slows heart rate and lowers blood pressure in high performance activities. Higher vagal tone is linked to well-being, whereas lower vagal tone is linked to inflammation, negative moods, loneliness, and heart attacks. (Frederickson & Kok, 2013).

Acetylcholine releases when the vagus nerve is stimulated, and this reduces heart rate. This natural chemical acts as your own tranquilizer without the use of artificial chemicals that can have other side effects. You can stimulate your own vagus nerve by gently pressing two fingers on the neck right under the jaw bone. Notice a mild feeling of relaxation, and you have just turned on your own tranquilizer.

Barbara Frederickson and Bethany Kok of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill found that the vagus nerve acts in a feedback loop between positive emotions, physical health and positive social connections. The practice of staying calm and nonreactive under trying circumstances, while challenging, can lead to a healthier body and mind. The perk you receive is to develop fierce equanimity, the state of mind that leads to kindness and grace under fire.

UPCOMING EVENTS
We are excited to announce that our book, Brain Change Therapy will be available for Kindle download on Amazon January 9.

Carol will be presenting a small group class called Accelerate: Ericksonian Hypnotic Strategies for Increasing Success in Life & Business which focuses on the masterful work of Milton Erickson using strategies to activate the brain toward trust, empathy, and success. This course is open to mental health clinicians, coaches, and change managers. January 17-18 9:00 to 4:30. Space is limited. Sign up Here

Once again Carol and Bill will be presenting in the Online Ericksonian Conference on Hypnosis and Trauma in February. Trauma is often behind many problems and there are powerful strategies to resolve it. Watch for the announcement.

Bill and Carol will be presenting their brand new course Strategic Neurocoaching: 7 Brain Change Tools for Activating the Optimal Mind, April 25-26.

In May we will launch our online course: Neurocoaching the Mind for Business, Financial and Life Success. Watch for the announcement. This has been popular.

We wish you all a wonderful 2014 and your best year ever. Remember, Milton Erickson said, “A goal without a date is a dream.”

Love,

Carol and Bill

Do something different this holiday to bring more: HOLIDAY CHEER!!!!

This year we want to encourage you to take some moments to really love yourself for being alive and be happy for who you are right now.

Think about the last time you felt in a state of flow, all possibilities were open, and everything was pure potential.  This state can be practiced and is truly a mental state of “thanksgiving.”

This is a state where you are noncritical, nonjudgmental, cheery, and positive.  It is not polly anna; it is an internal sense of flowing.

Frequently, we have seen people in our clinic have this experience on a neurofeedback system.  But you can have it in particular kinds of meditations where you focus on the imagined spaces in the body and just become aware of them.  For example, take a moment and focus on the internal space between your eyes.  This kind of focus results in the brain producing an alpha frequency, which is self-healing.  When you enter this state, it is impossible to think the same way.

This gives you “neurochoice.”  When you realize the effect your mental states and your thoughts have on your body, you can shift them with your focus of attention.  And in doing this you can influence the outcome you want.

But sometimes you must bridge yourself from a negative state to a more positive one.  It is difficult to move from one extreme state to another without a process.  The Buddha overcame suffering with meditation.  The British psychologist John Bowlby said we are happiest when we align with those we trust.  Each of these people had a “north star” to guide them and bring them back to their center during difficult times.

Identify your “north star” and practice using it frequently.

NEW EBOOK
Carol has just put a new ebook on Amazon: (link) that you might find helpful this holiday season.  If you know how to make your brain work for you, how to activate motivation, and how to set up your environment in such a way that it supports the change you want to make, you can accomplish anything.  This small book describes the practical steps based in the latest science to do just that.

Love,

Carol and Bill

SQUEEZE A BALL AND ENTER YOUR OPTIMAL MIND

October/November 2013SQUEEZE A BALL AND ENTER YOUR OPTIMAL MIND
The optimal mind is a mental state in which we feel stress-free and happy with work, relationships, and daily life. Some simple and “free” tools we discuss can help you achieve this state of psychological coherence more frequently.

What is the Optimal Mind?

When your neurons fire in synchrony and create incredible clarity and excellent performance, you are in state of maximum brain connectivity. This is brain coherence and it is the state of ultimate mental and physical performance.

The synchronized state of communication between the brain’s hemispheres facilitates balance. This brain harmony creates an amazing coherence of communication between brain areas. High coherence leads to higher consciousness experiences and what we call, psychological coherence, where you are in charge of your mind, and you can accomplish your dreams.

Einstein was a genius physicist and a master violinist. After having been inspired by Mozart, he began to practice the violin religiously. Recent research demonstrates that musical training improves the brain. Practicing an instrument or singing engages all hemispheres of your brain and improves their connections.

EINSTEIN said of his theory of relativity: “I thought of it while riding my bicycle.”

If you look at the daily routines of creative people, there is a strong link between some type of bilateral aerobic motion that engages brain hemispheres and leads to those ah-ha moments and creative breakthroughs.

Research released on April 24, 2013 by Ruth Propper and colleagues from Montclair State University found that hand clenching increases neuronal activity in the frontal lobe of the opposite hemisphere.

The right hemisphere controls (and receives sensory input from) the left side of the body and the left hemisphere controls (and receives sensory input from) the right side. The researchers stated that ‘such hand clenching is also associated with increased experiencing of a given hemisphere’s “mode of processing.” Together, these findings suggest that unilateral hand clenching can be used to test hypotheses concerning the specializations of the cerebral hemispheres during memory encoding and retrieval.”

The researchers found that clenching your right hand may help form a stronger memory of an event or action by activating the left hemisphere, and that clenching your left hand may help you recollect the memory later by activating your right hemisphere.

Creativity requires divergent thinking to connect seemingly unrelated memories and ideas in new and useful ways. It is fascinating to think that the simple act of squeezing a ball with your right hand while learning could improve crystallized intelligence in the left hemisphere; and later you could stimulate abstract thinking by squeezing the ball with your left hand to engage the right hemisphere.

In a similar 2010 study researchers from Israel used squeezing the left hand to activate the right hemisphere. The researchers found that creative problem solving increased by squeezing a ball.

Squeeze a ball in your left hand to stop rumination.

In another study from 2012 published by the American Psychological Association, German researchers found that athletes can improve their performance under pressure simply by squeezing a ball or clenching their left hand before competition to activate the right side of the brain.

Right-handed athletes who squeezed a ball in their left hand before competing were less likely to choke under pressure than those players who squeezed a ball in their right hand which activated the left hemisphere.

“For skilled athletes, many movements, such as kicking a soccer ball or completing a judo kick, become automatic with little conscious thought. When athletes under pressure don’t perform well, they may be focusing too much on their own movements rather than relying on their motor skills developed through years of practice,” said lead researcher Juergen Beckmann, PhD, chair of sport psychology at the Technical University of Munich in Germany.

“Rumination can interfere with concentration and performance of motor tasks. Athletes usually perform better when they trust their bodies rather than thinking too much about their own actions or what their coaches told them during practice,” Beckmann added. “While it may seem counter-intuitive, consciously trying to keep one’s balance is likely to produce imbalance.”

Beckmann notes that “Previous research has shown that rumination is associated with the brain’s left hemisphere, while the right hemisphere is associated with superior performance in automated behaviors, such as those used by some athletes.” Because the right hemisphere controls movements of the left side of the body, and the left hemisphere controls the right side—the researchers theorize that squeezing a ball or clenching the left hand activates the right hemisphere of the brain and reduces the likelihood of rumination.

Conclusion

This study focused exclusively on right-handed athletes because the relationships between different parts of the brain are less well understood for people who are left-handed.

This research could have important implications outside athletics according to the authors. “Elderly people who are afraid of falling often focus too much on their movements, so right-handed elderly people may be able to improve their balance by clenching their left hand before walking or climbing stairs,” Beckmann said.

“Many movements of the body can be impaired by attempts at consciously controlling them,” Beckmann concluded. “This technique can be helpful for many situations and tasks.”

In Brain Change Therapy, we often use Strategic Neurocoaching through:

Bilateral brain hemisphere stimulation for optimal cooperation between the left and right sides of the brain and other ways of bilateral stimulation (auditory and tactile stimuli that are implemented according to a particular protocol for optimal results)

AND

Hypnosis, neurofeedback, biofeedback, and psychotherapy for helping couples, individuals, executives, performers, increase their access to the Coherent Brain and optimal states of mind.

Clients can then

increase creativity, effectiveness, resistance to stress, and overall well-being prepare mentally for peak performance implement new behaviors overcome personal and professional disappointments, setbacks, and blocks on the way to achieving goals facilitate access to knowledge, skills, and resources in any situation or context enhance abilities and skills transform limiting thought and behavioral patterns into self-confidence and overcome phobias

UPCOMING EVENTS
Bill will be teaching an Introductory Course in Ericksonian Hypnosis and Psychotherapy November 1-2, 2013. (Course is FULL)

Carol will be teaching a small-group course called Accelerate: Ericksonian Hypnotic Strategies for Increasing Success In Life and Business, January 17-18, 2014. (Limited to 10 participants) 12 Ceu’s for clinicians but open to coaches, consultants, change leaders.

The key to success is to master powerful conversation that activates the brain toward trust, empathy, and integrity. In order to influence and persuade that you or your product will accomplish what is promised, your conversation must calm the brain and engage a sense of curiosity and future focus. Milton Erickson was a master at unconscious influence. Join us as we lay out a blueprint designed by Erickson and now reinforced by neuroscience discoveries that demonstrate how to trigger confidence in you and others. If you are not getting the results you want, you may not be eliciting what you intend.

Learn the Power of Changing Frames

Use Marketing with the Brain in Mind

Apply the Master Blueprint for Powerful and Influential Conversations

Overcome Immobilizing Fears

Open to the Matrix of Possibility for Creativity and Success

Success Is Never an Accident but the Result of Regularly Applied Strategies, Actions, and an Internal Framework That Fully Overcomes the “Small You”— And Engages Life Vitally as the Maximum You!

Fee: $275

April 25-26, 2014 Carol and Bill will be teaching in Houston: Strategic Neurocoaching: 7 Brain Change Tools for Activating the Optimal Mind

People can overcome anxiety, depression, and low performance without major archeological digs into their history. This workshop will expand your awareness and skills needed to succeed in any endeavor. With these new 7 brain change tools, your therapy, coaching, and relationships with self and others can activate the optimal mind state.

Through humorous lecture, discussion, and demonstrations, you will:

Learn New Tools (not taught anywhere else) to enhance the body’s electrical functioning involved in creating the optimal mind

Utilize the Neuroscience of Possibility

Cutting edge information on how to coach the brain toward enhanced living

Understand the Coherent Brain and Psychological Coherence

Discover How the Heart Responds to Stimuli before the Brain; The Amazing Connection Between Heart and Brain

Activate the Ability we already use to Scan for Future Events

How to Increase happiness and overcome Unconscious Counter Intentions

Empower therapeutic skills to help people overcome any problem quickly

Engage the Unconscious Mind to Supercharge Life for Inspired Action

CEUs: 12, (3 for ethics)

Fee: $295 by Feb. 15, $325 by March 15, $350 by April 1

Student Fee: $250

Groups of 5 or More Fee by Feb 15 $275


Love,
Carol and Bill

 

 

 

STRATEGIC NEUROCOACHING FOR BUSINESS AND LIFE SUCCESS

Strategic Neurocoaching is an accelerated approach that develops deliberate and tactical plans for business goal achievement and life success based on people’s strengths.  It focuses on 3 principles:  a.  people have amazing abilities they often do not know they have; b.  with the right strategy you can accomplish anything; c. positive future orientation leads the strategizing process into a mental state of possibility and access to creative and generative ideas.

From a strategic neurocoaching perspective, problems reside within interactions between people fostered by their mental states that turn on and off emotional neural circuits.  Through a process of coaching with the brain in mind and learning how to join a transaction to elicit mental states of possibility, we have a blueprint for moving from confusion to the best future solution.

The human brain is very creative, but it constantly generates negative thoughts and feelings that have little to do with reality. Other parts of your brain react to these imaginary scenarios as though they were real.

The result? We put on the brakes and we undermine our natural impulse to succeed. Most people find themselves caught up an inner struggle between their desires and fears because they haven’t learned the cognitive strategies that can help the brain perform at a high level, consistently.

You have a huge amount of untapped potential in your brain. Most people’s brains operate at a fairly low level of efficiency due to old habits and behaviors that limit our ability to excel and succeed. In fact, our brain often functions in ways that actually sabotage our efforts to perform optimally and achieve our potential and desired goals.

To be agile in the face of uncertainty and anxiety is crucial in today’s personal and business environment. How do we achieve this by leveraging how the brain works and more importantly, how do you maintain this? We have developed a methodology based in the latest neuroscience research.

When we talk about making changes, we usually run a movie in the mind of what specific result is needed.  Personal and organizational change can occur more easily with the new perspective that to keep the brain from hijacking itself through reactivity and rote behaviors such as arguing, passive-aggressive behavior or resistance,  we must train the mind in mental strategies to being able to respond more effectively.  This means mental states must be shifted in order for new behaviors to follow.

The brain maintains a “habit center” in the basal ganglia which manages such activities as walking and driving.  The amygdala can trigger fear and anger and the urge to run away from difficult situations.  With practice over time, patterns of habitual behavior become hard wired, and in order to change these, the basal ganglia must be considered.  In order to be ready for difficult conversations or interactions, people must engage in mind training to be able to step aside from emotional reactions.  The practice of meta thinking or thinking about what you are thinking can help with slowing down internal emotional reactions.

The author of The Book of Five Rings, Miyamoto Mushasi, says, “the way of strategy is the way of nature.”  The rhythm between people can produce positive change or negative effects.  Nature’s inherent energy is a blend of harmony and unity in push/pull, and spiral dynamics that lead toward better futures. When a person works to blend with another’s energy rather than fighting or resisting it, an artful evolution of process and solution emerges.

In martial arts, the successful practitioner moves with the opponent.  When your client is in a positive rhythm, it is the time to plan and influence the process of creative strategizing for the future.  If the client has the neural circuits of panic or anxiety turned on, it may be best to bridge the person into a more productive mental state before engaging in solution-creation.

The best strategic consultants learn powerful strategies of influence by noticing how their own minds respond to thoughts and feelings.  The mind chatters incessantly and when you learn to allow thoughts, feelings, sensations, to come and go, you are able to stay focused where you desire.  Observe your thoughts, have curiosity about why your mind tells you these things.

The following principles are useful in formulating a strategic neurocoaching session:
1.  A person’s thoughts, perceptions, beliefs, result from habituated mental states and result in many of the circumstances of life.

2.  By providing service to others do we find the most success and satisfaction.

3.  We have the capacity to recondition the mind and break negative past conditioning.

4.  Everything we think, say or do has an effect on others.

5.  Focusing on solutions rather than problems brings them into awareness.

6.  When you journey to the center of yourself and align with who you are, you begin to live life at the edge of possibility.

Motivation through force is rarely successful.  It only creates further resistance.  Rather than pressuring solutions onto another, it is more effective to utilize a martial arts philosophy and practice.  Find the person’s locus of energy and leverage it to accomplish your goals.  That means using conversational processes to coach solutions from people.  When you discover where an individual’s motivation lies, you can coach from that power.

For example, some people are much better at helping facilitate a conversation than taking care of business details.  If that is the case, use the person in this capacity for his/her power and presence rather than complaining about what is not accomplished that might be done with a secretary.

Powerful questions that are solution-oriented and future focused can do just that.  One question we like to use is this:  “What would have to happen personally and professionally one year from now for you to feel satisfied with your ( business, staff, etc)  goal progress?

Within this one question are the seeds for strategic planning and action over a year.  The neurocoaching process can lead a person to do one thing differently that can have enormous positive results.

A strategic neurocoaching process can be centered around these steps:

1.  ASSESS: What are the mental states needed to accomplish x?  Where are the emotional vulnerabilities to reactivity?

2.  DISCOVER:  What internal resources are needed to accomplish x (previous experiences where the mental states were used)?
What mental and physiological experiences are needed to get to states of possibility?

3.  DESIGN:  ASK THE FUTURE QUESTIONS designed to generate a positive solution-oriented plan.

4.  EVOLVE the goal:  Put the action plan in place and monitor the results; make adjustments as needed.

5.  CREATE a collective reflection on how things are going.  Are you achieving your desired state of mind and therefore your goal?

6.  USE self-regulation technologies (brain/heart/mind) for transforming emotional reactivity.

7.  FUTURE MAP the solution after this one to allow the future to lead the present.

Jefferey Schwartz, neuroscientist said,  “To engender change among people in an organization, keep attention focused on the desired end state, not avoiding problems.  Set up practices and processes that make it easy for people to do the right thing until it becomes not only second nature, but an ethic taken to (and to the brain) by the entire company,” (That’s the Way We (Used to ) Do Things Around Here”, Strategy and business magazine, Spring, 2011.

UPCOMING EVENTS:
Bill will be speaking at the Jade Buddha Temple, 9-8-13 at 9:00 to 11:15 on Quantum Physics and the Dharma
What is the relationship between Buddhist philosophy of emptiness and quantum physics?
Address:  6969 West Branch Drive, Houston, 77072
One block off of Bellaire Blvd after Dairy Ashford
Open to the public and free

Bill will be teaching an Introduction to Ericksonian Hypnosis and Psychotherapy Nov.1-2.  Please call him for details:  713 529-4588

Carol will be speaking for the Biofeedback Society of Kansas in Tulsa April 11-12, 2014.

Carol and Bill will be teaching a new seminar on Advanced Brain Change Therapy April 25-26, 2014.  Watch for details

Personal notes:
Our time at Esalen was one of renewal, regeneration, and marvel, and helped us expand our future mission.  Unless you change the internal or external environment to quiet the mind, it is more difficult to access the seeds of possibility.  Profound and subtle shifts can occur in meditation where you feel more connected, less resistant to emotionally challenging tasks, and an increased ability to manage difficult days by turning on the neural circuit of self compassion.  You have the capacity to accelerate your positive mental states.

Love,
Carol and Bill

CAN WE LIVE MORE REASONABLY?

We see a host of ailments that modern Americans contend.  Besides increasing incidents of depression and anxiety, there are a number of other health problems including obesity, diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.  As a general population, we seem to be less healthy than we were early in the 20th century.  In fact, when compared to other countries, life expectancy, quality of happiness, and the level of degenerative illnesses, are high for Americans.  Why is this true?

There are a number of reasons.  The faster our pace of life, the more stressed we appear to become.  Recent studies around sleep deprivation have shown that we need 8 ½ hours at least of sleep per night but few people get this.  As a highly mobile society, many people lack meaningful and intimate connections outside their nuclear family.  Studies done by the Center for Disease Control have shown people become depressed because the social fabric seems to be fraying.  Americans become depressed earlier in life than 100 years ago.  While a certain amount of stress is good and necessary, many live without much assurance of economic stability, and have many worries about what the future holds, and whether their children will enjoy the abundance as much as they have.

Our eating habits as Americans are poor.  Too much fat, sugar, and carbohydrates lead to many degenerative diseases.  For many, especially lower income, fast food, is the only economically feasible choice.  This reality is complicated by a shrinking middle-class.  Our individual mental and physical well-being is tied to economic well-being, the social fabric, and our level of connection to each other.

When Carol and I have travelled outside the U.S., we have found an inverse correlation to how much “stuff” people have and their level of happiness.  While we do not tout poverty as a goal, moderation may be a healthier pursuit.  The question each of us must ask ourselves is how much of our life’s energy do we wish and choose to trade for the newest and latest material goods?  Are we living our lives with such a fear of scarcity, that not only are we driven to work harder to attain more things, stress ourselves more that leads to an unhealthy lifestyle, but also creates a greater disparity between economic classes.  Are our lifestyles contributing to social injustice in a way that makes increased levels of disease a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Each of us needs to ponder these issues, discuss them with family and friends, and ask ourselves do the answers we discover drive us deeper into anxiety and dis-ease, alienating us from one another, or do our answers help us reconnect and live with a greater degree of gratitude and health fulfillment.

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Join us for the Online Ericksonian Conference in September, where you will have the opportunity to hear from many of the very best clinicians from around the world  (link).

Carol will be in Monterrey Mexico August 23-25 teaching for the Monterrey Ericksonian Institute.

Watch for our Advanced Brain Change Therapy workshop next spring as details become available.

 

Our very best to you all.

 

Love,

Bill and Carol

WAKING THE PHOENIX

The Phoenix in you is the potential not yet expressed waiting to be switched on. In order for you to turn on this potential you must pay attention to your dreams and goals.

Thoughts can become possibility realized.

Can you imagine more love, more happiness coming into your life? Can you imagine more abundance

Princeton University ran an experimental project for 25 years looking at the influence of consciousness on matter. Robert Jahn discovered that human thought can influence random numbers spit out by a computer.

We have a fascinating device in our office called the Mind Lamp. This lamp is based on Jahn’s discoveries. The lamp runs through a variety of earth colors and sky colors. When you gently invite the lamp to turn a certain color, it often will. (Link to Online product)

You can make your dreams come true. If you use thoughts to create material things, you will focus in the way you need to shift conditions in reality. If you use thought to create more happiness in relationships you begin to focus on that very dynamic.

When you want to redirect others in a positive way, share your joy by visualizing another feeling happier.

Life is waiting for you to live it—by taking specific action.

Try these intentions:

Finish these sentences:

I want to accomplish

I want to improve my relationship by

I want to improve my body by

I want to improve my finances by

I want to expand my spiritual self by

Now, decide what actions you will take on each of these so you behave in alignment with these desires.

Place yourself in the future beyond the goal you have when it is accomplished. See yourself in the future beyond where you want to be. This presumes your dreams have been realized. Look back at yourself before the goals have been accomplished.

Scatter images around your living space or computer symbolizing what you want to achieve. This reminds your unconscious to keep working on this reality.

Write the date down when you accomplish something and keep a black notebook (or in your computer) with the proof that your mind creates amazing things.

When you start this process, watch for limiting ideas to pop up. They might be: you have to overwork, sacrifice, and give up your goals. They will immediately come up for you. Treat them like butterflies: they will come and go if you don’t grab hold of them. Watch them disappear before your eyes.

Remember you are what you focus on: you are what you think about. You have the power to shift this.

UPCOMING EVENTS

If you would like help with increasing happiness, consider attending one of our upcoming events.

We will be in Esalen Aug. 11-16, 2013 doing a 5 day retreat on these ideas above. Consider taking this time for yourself for renewal, awakening, and developing a specific plan to create a new future. (see link)

Watch for the new Online Ericksonian Conference in September. We will be giving a workshop on Neurocoaching the Mind for Life Success: 3 Hypnotic Steps to Using Your Brain for Change

Next Spring, we will be offering an Advanced Brain Change Therapy course.

We have been working on several cutting edge tools to create change that involve the energy of the body and advances in synchronicity.

NEW MATERIAL

We have just completed our digital book: Change Anything for Good. This focuses on increasing your motivation to accomplish anything. (see link)

Love,

Carol and Bill

3 Easy Tools to Increase Happiness

What is the Regeneration Effect?

The ability to recover from disappointment and unforeseen experiences in life that knock everyone off course comes from the body/mind’s natural return to balance once you have dealt with the feelings and figured out what to do to get back on track. These circumstances can include a surprising illness, a financial setback, a betrayal by someone you thought was a friend, or being around a negative person who has a knack for bringing you down. Unhappy people develop habits that maintain unhappy mental states.

The ability to rebalance is based in our positive and optimistic perspective that can be practiced. It turns out the more we practice being positive, the more reserve we have to dip into. Recent neuroscience research done by Robert Holden found that the neural pathways for greater happiness can grow and develop with practice. MRI’s were conducted on a group of subjects prior to a specific program. It was found that most people showed signs of depression, represented by lower activity in the left prefrontal lobe of the brain. Then Holden asked the group to follow a program for several weeks. They were to laugh at least 20 minutes per day, exercise 20 minutes per day, and place colored dots around every room of their home and office space to remind them to remember a positive memory. At the end of a month, MRI’s were conducted again, and the scans showed they all had significantly increased activity in their left prefrontal cortex. All subjects reported moving from being depressed to feeling happier. Six months later the subjects had another scan and the changes remained!!

You have the ability to stay happier for longer periods of time without trying to change negative thoughts to positive ones just by practicing positive habits of mind.

If you would like help with increasing happiness, consider attending one of our upcoming events.

 

Upcoming Events:

Carol will be in the Philadelphia area June 12-14 offering a workshop Brain Change Therapy through Pesi.com

Carol and Bill will be at Esalen August 11-17 offering an amazing retreat (see link) called Life at the Edge of Possibility

Carol and Bill are also working on an Advanced Brain Change Therapy course and a certification process for those mental health professionals who are interested. There are more powerful tools we have added to our training, and they are all evidenced based.

If you would like individual consultation to increase your happiness states in life, relationships, finances, and business, consider becoming a client. We will send you a qualifying form and will do a phone interview to see if the fit is good.
Carol’s email is carolkershaw@aol.com and Bill’s email is zenpsych@aol.com.

Have a wonderful summer and take care of yourself.
Love,
Carol and Bill

Spanish Workshop

Carol and Bill discuss the power of the human mind to an audience in Spain.

Your Powerful Mind

What if you could quickly shift your mind out of a negative, anxious, or depressed state into a creative, calm, and productive one? And what if you could live in a more pleasant state more often than not and make significant change? Would your life improve if you could think clearly, switch on intuition, calm stress, and slow the aging process. Neuroscience research over the past 5 years has found that you have more ability than you may know to get your mind to work for you. If you find yourself living in reactivity and having difficulty making the changes you want, there is a reason.

Every experience you have is the result of activated genes and brain circuits. The families we grow up in, the life experiences we have, and our reaction to them all activate certain gene expression and brain circuits that can lead toward optimal or dysfunctional life patterns. From the beginning of life, your genes, environment, and social interactions play a role in influencing the brain and behavior. But the good news is we are not victims of our genes, our families, or our own minds.

Emotional circuits that you activated or modeled early in life or as a result of “life shocks”, those surprising events that knock you off your intended course, become conditioned over time. Just like turning on a light switch without thinking, your reactive mental states can run your life. These might include being angry, feeling put upon, being resentful, unable to forgive, and holding a grudge. These mental states are the result of activated emotional brain circuits. But they are destructive to well-being both physically and psychologically.

Most people are unaware that their reactive minds lead toward negative life paths and close down possibilities. Mental states determine behavior. So if you walk around with the proclivity to feel like a human tornado, you will act impulsively to attempt to change your mental state. If you find yourself frequently in mental states of stress, there are actual neurobiological reasons for this.

Neuroscientists have identified 7 “emotional circuits” – emotional states that result in specific neural patterns in your brain. These are seeking (curiosity), care (nurture), rage, fear, panic, lust, and play. Frequently stepping into particular emotional states and triggering their related brain circuits conditions those neural patterns. Before long, those mental states begin to color – or even actively create – your experience of life.


UPCOMING EVENTS

Please join us for our April 26-27 workshop, Neurocoaching the Mind in Houston.

Carol and Bill have once again been invited to do a week long retreat at Esalen in August

Life At the Edge of Possibility:  Esalen retreat, August 11-16 , 2013.
We hope all of you are enjoying your lives and thriving!!

Love,

Carol and Bill

You are More than You Think

Ground-breaking research by Bruce Lipton found that cells respond to the environment rather than being driven by genes. This breakthrough led him to suggest we are not victims of our genes.  Our perception of life events and our interpretations turn on and off gene expression.  The way we perceive life causes our chemistry to control the fate of the cells.  As you change your mind you change your biology.

What we consistently focus on turns on certain neural circuits and over time, this is what we become.  What we repeatedly give attention to molds our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.  When we live in states of stress certain chemicals cascade through the system and alter our body’s functioning.  Over time, inflammation in various organs occurs and illness can take over.

Your consciousness is more than your brain.  And you have the ability to choose possibilities in your life.  Your consciousness is also cosmic in that when you change mental states to extreme calm, creative thought and intuitive insight is released.

The bottom line is we have the ability to change ourselves for the better.  We must dehypnotize ourselves from the conditioned awareness to which we have become accustomed.  We can recognize where we have been hypnotized by family, life experience, and how this has been reinforced through repetition.  Hypnotic suggestions over time can turn into limiting beliefs.  Some of them are:  “I’m alone,” I’m not safe,” “I can’t stop shooting myself in the foot,” or “I can’t relax.”  None of these are true.

Change your state, change your mind, change your body, and change your life, and create the future you want.

UPCOMING EVENTS

Neurocoaching the Mind for Business, Financial, and Life Success April 26-27, 2013 will explore these ideas and help you get on the right track for your best success. Click for a preview.

Our interview on the Mind Science Institute

Our interview with the Mind Science Institute is now live at: www.mindscienceinstitute.com/mstv.htm.

Enjoy!

CREATE YOUR NEW YEAR

Buddhist nun Pema Chodron tells us “now is the only time. How we relate to it creates the future…what we do accumulates; the future is what we do now.” So what do we leave behind in 2012 and create anew in 2013?

Often our own self-absorption, background of edginess, and refusal to train the mind into calm states, leads us into unhappiness. When we just allow the edginess to come up and observe it, eventually it fades.

If we focus on possibilities, an open field from which we can create from our focus and intention, 2013 can be a year of joy and expansion. This kind of mental practice turns us away from the stories of the ego; those that keep our upset going, and powerful, old mental habits that lead us to negative perspectives, attitudes, and behaviors.

When we can calm the mind, move beyond craving and upset, we know the right path; we know what to do. How do you accomplish this?
Focus on turning on your brain’s play circuit!! What new adventures do you want to have this year? What is the most fun you have ever had? What were you doing? Make it a goal to have fun every day!!

We can achieve goals we set for the new year. Even though most goals don’t last past January, if you decide now what you want to accomplish, set a time limit for working on them each day, take action, and follow the action with something really fun, you will be in a different place at the end of the first month.

And then, keep going.

Make 2013 a really Happy New Year!!